Flip side, or at least another version of the story we are all playing out. My D was waiting to hear from Harvard (deferred EA) and Columbia today. I am in the office, she is home, my H and S are home with her (home office, spring break).
I call home at 2pm, when emails are due. She isn't even home - she and S are grocery shopping for a dinner they plan to cook for us tonight. I call her cell. She says she will be home in 5 minutes. 10 minutes later I get the call from H - so I know it isn't good. If it were good she would call me herself. Waitlisted at Harvard. But I didn't really have high hopes of that and it isn't her first choice, so fine.
Then she has to go babysit! So she doesn't even get the Columbia mail. I while away the time in work discussions, phone calls from Shanghai as that side of the world wakes up. I keep pinging cc just for something to do.
AT 3:15 I see my H's number on my cell. Heart sinks again. Know what this means.
She's waitlisted at Columbia too. I ask to talk to her - just to tell her that I see from the Columbia cc board that waitlisted kids are really high stats, so maybe they just thought she'd get into HYPS. She, the most talkative of souls, speaks in monotones. I ask her when I should come home for dinner. She says she doesn't know. I say I will be home soon.
So I have to try not to cry at my desk, given that my office has this huge glass window looking out at other humans.
I'm natively optimistic, so I am sure that I'll tell myself the good side of this story somehow. It's also true that she hasn't yet heard from Princeton or Stanford, and that she is accepted already to Berkeley. But at this moment it just makes me want to cry. She is such a stellar kid, she did all of this herself with no pushing from us at all, and I really thought Columbia would accept her. She is so disappointed, and is the type who doesn't take comfort, so she doesn't really even want to talk.
I will just go home and eat dinner and tell her I love her and it'll be fine. But nothing I can do will ever erase this for her. My job will be to put it in context.
For those who will want to know, her stats are below.
SAT 1 1470 (740M730V)
SAT II 800,800, and 7 something
GPA: Never got anything but an A, highest grade possible, and has taken 7 APS
Rotary award for pre-calculus and calculus
Ballet dancer chosen for summer intensive at American Ballet Theater in New York - only 250 kids are taken each summer from auditions with hundreds of kids at 20 cities around the country
Lead in school plays
Head of dance club
Taught math to Hispanic kids from underprivileged schools
Essay: Orginal, about termites and protists
Recs: Academic dean of school said she was one of top 5 individuals she had met in 15 years of teaching
Hook? Went to a free school until high school which didn't even give grades....
What do we do now? Other than wait for Princeton and Stanford.