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I'm in deep ****...

MorassMorass Registered User Posts: 4 New Member
edited May 2009 in Parents Forum
Sorry for the language, but I really have a problem right now.

A week ago, I was working at a guy's house on a project. He got frustrated later and decided to leave a comment on the teacher's website. He typed it up, and I got a look at a bit of what was written - really horrible stuff, like he'd burn down his house, rape his wife. I'm pretty sure he was joking, and was going to close the window, but one of the girls (there were two girls in our group also) came over and clicked send. I was kind of shocked, but the others didn't seem to mind all that much. I ended up forgetting about it completely.

Until today. I got called to the principal's office. They found what was written, and interrogated me. Obviously, the guy had told them I had a part in it - he said I helped compose the message. That is a complete lie. Yes, I was there and knew what was going on, but in no way did I have any involvement in the whole thing. They're going to be calling the other two girls that were also there when it happened to get their stories.

So now, I'm suspended from school indefinitely, and the police are going to be investigating into this. I don't know what to do. This is the first time I've gotten into something like this. I'm not a bad kid. I had high expectations, high dreams, high goals. But now, this happens, and I'm just in a state of shock. I don't know what to do. I could be suspended, hell maybe even expelled, I don't know.

What do I do? This is really stressing me out.
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Replies to: I'm in deep ****...

  • HuntHunt Registered User Posts: 26,917 Senior Member
    Get a lawyer.
  • ConsolationConsolation Registered User Posts: 22,248 Senior Member
    Talk to your parents about it. I hope that you are telling the truth about your role. If you are, and it looks as if the other boy is going to try to spread the blame by pinning it on you, I would not hesitate to get a lawyer. Actually, I would get a lawyer even if you were engaged in stupid pack behavior and DID help compose it, since you had no intention of sending it.
  • annikasorrensenannikasorrensen Registered User Posts: 1,487 Senior Member
    Hire a lawyer. Immediately. Being suspended from school is obviously a problem, but if criminal charges get pressed it could get a whole lot worse.

    Good luck. I'm serious about hiring a lawyer.

    Annika
  • doamedoame Registered User Posts: 333 Member
    Get a lawyer! AND tell the absolute truth, every time, to every question asked.

    Do not alter your answers to "protect" anyone in that room.
  • NewHope33NewHope33 Registered User Posts: 6,208 Senior Member
    Well, I was going to say "You're an idiot -- get a lawyer." But then I thought "Hey, maybe this guy never heard of Columbine or Virginia Tech -- he could plead ignorance. That might work, right?"
  • MorassMorass Registered User Posts: 4 New Member
    Yes, my parents are aware of the situation already. My dad has even met up with the principal and talked with her for a bit.

    How realistic is hiring a lawyer? Do people usually do this in these kinds of situations? I live in Canada, if that means anything (not sure if same legal rules apply as in US).
  • GossamerWingsGossamerWings Registered User Posts: 1,559 Senior Member
    Wait...so the student typed up a message, presumably because he was frustrated, but didn't send it. Then, the rest of you decided to actually send it without telling him and then "forgot about it"? If I were a member of the jury, I'd say you really are just as guilty.

    I would definitely consult a lawyer, if only to find out whether posting that type of message is a criminal offense in Canada.
  • doamedoame Registered User Posts: 333 Member
    I suppose if the girl's version of events support what you say, you may be admonished for foolish behaviour & perhaps suspended. On the other hand, here in the states this type of thing is taken VERY seriously..for good reason. I think hiring a lawyer is very realistic considering the possible outcomes and effect they could have on your future, college future -> life.

    Teens are children and do not have completely developed brains, so they're allowed some measure of mistake. The threats sent to this teacher go beyond that. I think you'll need professional help to make sure your rights are protected .
  • downtoearthdowntoearth Registered User Posts: 3,233 Senior Member
    Yes get a lawyer immediately. In the US these things -ZERO TOLERANCE
  • MorassMorass Registered User Posts: 4 New Member
    Wait...so the student typed up a message, presumably because he was frustrated, but didn't send it. Then, the rest of you decided to actually send it without telling him and then "forgot about it"? If I were a member of the jury, I'd say you really are just as guilty.

    He typed it up, but he's the kind of guy who always jokes about these things. He's always swearing and making rude comments, so I wasn't sure if he was serious about sending it. Right after he typed it up though, the girl clicked send. There wasn't actually any "decision" to send it, it just happened.
  • Cardinal FangCardinal Fang Registered User Posts: 16,937 Senior Member
    The police are involved. You should talk to a lawyer.
  • NewHope33NewHope33 Registered User Posts: 6,208 Senior Member
    >>Right after he typed it up though, the girl clicked send. There wasn't actually any "decision" to send it, it just happened.<<

    And of course as soon as the message "just happened" to be sent, everyone in the room went "Oh NO!" and immediately (a) tried to recall the email, (b) sent a follow up email to the teacher explaining that a really serious error in judgement had been made and that you all would be in the principal's office the next morning to apologize. Both those things happened, right?
  • ebeeeeeebeeeee Registered User Posts: 5,199 Senior Member
    Your comment above needs to change right now. There is a decision at every moment with everything you do. The girl who clicked send made a decision to do so. It didn't just happen.
    If that is your attitude to what occurred you really are in deep doo doo. You can't joke about things like he did. He made a decision to type up the message.
    You made a decision to spend time with someone who would do something like that.
  • ebeeeeeebeeeee Registered User Posts: 5,199 Senior Member
    Cross posted with others. You need a lawyer and I would not post anymore about this. The internet is not anonymous.
  • HeronHeron Registered User Posts: 485 Member
    Lawyer. And watch out who you hang out with. Anyone who writes an email like that, even if he never meant to send it, isn't an okay guy. And any girl who just pushes send, not someone to hang out with either. You don't sound like a bad kid, but you didn't exercise good judgment in this situation. Learn from that as well. Good luck.
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