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  • violadadvioladad 6351 replies294 discussionsRegistered User Posts: 6,645 Senior Member
    Again, if what you state is true, I would urge you and your parents to consult/retain a lawyer.

    From a layman's perspective, the laws of your particular state regarding the consumption of alcohol under the auspices of parental supervision may play a part. The timing of the consumption of the wine and the time of the pullover is also important. Clinical studies (or the absence thereof) regarding the interaction of your specific meds with alcohol need to be weighed. Perhaps a medical/prescribed drug infraction carries different penalties, charges, and rehabilitory/restitution penalties. The context and nature of your parents statement may or may not be evidence. Discussing, stating, or rearranging specific facts of a pending criminal hearing within a public forum may not be a wise idea.

    I'm not a lawyer. The thread has deviated from the op's opening point. In the interest of potentially doing more harm than good, I would urge caution in furthering the discussion.

    Good luck to you.
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  • maritemarite 21343 replies243 discussionsRegistered User Posts: 21,586 Senior Member
    Just a question, not a challenge: is it okay to drink while also taking adderral?
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  • sabaraysabaray 6990 replies78 discussionsRegistered User Posts: 7,068 Senior Member
    Unfortunately, marite, I believe it is a common practice among those who choose to celebrate excessively on the weekends. I believe medically it is contraindicated as it puts enormous strain on the liver. Depressant/stimulants generally don't mix well. Alcohol usually doesn't mix well with any medicine.
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  • ericmodifyericmodify 70 replies9 discussionsRegistered User Posts: 79 Junior Member
    Violadad that is precisely why I didn't want to get into it, I simply thought I would suspend judgement so I could get my question answered.
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  • goaliedadgoaliedad 2158 replies41 discussionsRegistered User Posts: 2,199 Senior Member
    Update since I was writing during other posts...

    You may have bigger problems than originally thought. Admitting to drinking is an automatic MIP, unless your state allows (a few do) minors to consume alcohol when served by parents in their own home. Hopefully that isn't on your ticket as well.

    Not giving sympathy for the "cops pick on students" excuse here. I was pulled over at age 19 in my parents car after being tailed (while driving at the posted speed limit) at night so closely that I couldn't see their headlights. They were pushing me to violate the law. Still pulled me over. Intentionally mispronounced my last name to a vulgar insult to try to provoke me. I remained calm. Had me face down, spread eagle in the rain in the middle of the road for 10 minutes while pulling every thing out of my parents new Toyota (ostensibly looking for drugs). Left everything all over the wet ground (including registration) when they released me to clean up "my mess". No ticket issued.

    I did recognize the pair, however depsite their failure to give badge numbers. I did not file a complaint, however. I did tell the owner of the restaurant where I worked about the incident the next day. That particular restaurant had a policy of giving cops 1/2 price food. When they walked in, he pointed me out (working in the kitchen) and asked them not to return to the establishment, as they had wronged a good person. I saw the look in their eyes (they then recognized me).

    Point here is that bad things happen to good people, but with the support of others justice will be served.
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  • doamedoame 330 replies3 discussionsRegistered User Posts: 333 Member
    violadad has given you sage advice. You are in a situation that warrants retaining a lawyer. Some people are intimidated by just the thought of needing a lawyer because the entire process can be scary. I would encourange you to, minimally, go for a consultation. Yes, it will cost hundreds into thousands of dollars, but this is your LIFE. Discuss this with your parents. You have described unusual circumstances and the specifics matter and are state-dependent. How you conduct yourself through this will reveal much about your character. Hold your head high, use appropriate words and don't let this (serious) bump waylay your college hopes.
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  • maritemarite 21343 replies243 discussionsRegistered User Posts: 21,586 Senior Member
    Ericmodify:

    Is there a report on your arrest? If it states that your parents claimed to have allowed you to drink a glass of wine at 6:30 and your arrest took place at 11pm, and the breathalyzer showed 0.00, then you can write an explanation for your DWI with the college application. Do not make it the topic of your essay, unless the experience has motivated you to do something such as joining the ACLU or SADD or some other volunteer activity. But include all the information (together with supporting evidence if available).

    You won't be the first applicant who drank before 21!
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  • violadadvioladad 6351 replies294 discussionsRegistered User Posts: 6,645 Senior Member
    eric, it's unclear whether or not you and your parents have retained legal counsel. I suggest you do so. A knowledgeable and effective advocate should be able to achieve a fair and just outcome. A lawyer may also have specific legal advice based on the wording of the individual applications regarding the question pertaining to offenses. You may have to address some of these differently, but again they need to be sincere and honest. You need to be able to comply truthfully within the framework of the specifics to avoid any future issues.
    Addressing the original question, my advices is to answer all questions on the application honestly, update the application as the legal proceedings move forward, and deal with the consequences as a life lesson. Given the timing right now, the proceedings should be completed except for EA/ED situations. And a decent lawyer should be able to get it resolved one way or another (plea bargain or dismissal for lack of physical evidence on breathalyzer) even before those deadlines.

    I agree with what goaliedad as written above.

    And to add goaliedad's "bad things happen" scenario, my wife is a health care professional. She works odd shifts, and weekends, as well as the major party holidays. It's not unusual for her to be on the road at 4 or 5 am, on 4th of July, New Year's Day, or other "major party" days where DUI/DWI is a real issue and threat to safety.

    She's been tailgated by cops, slipstreamed in efforts to speed up. She's been pulled over, in her uniform whites and id badge hanging around her neck on the way to work. She's been dealing with this for 20 years. She doesn't drink, never has. She is a cautious driver, never a moving infraction in 40 plus years behind the wheel. This stuff happens.

    It's not for me to judge whether you were targeted, guilty, or innocent. But seek, professional, informed advice. This is not "small potatoes", nor is it "mischief".

    Again, good luck to you.
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  • mdocmdoc 419 replies23 discussionsRegistered User Posts: 442 Member
    If the facts are as you've stated, hire a lawyer and get this taken care of. This DWI will have negative repercussions for a while, and if you truly were not driving impaired, there is no good reason to allow it to stand. You stated on another post that your entire town knows about this. Do they know the facts? If you've made the facts available, I'm not sure why you needed to resign your leadership position. Get some legal advice.
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  • momofthreeboysmomofthreeboys 16613 replies66 discussionsRegistered User Posts: 16,679 Senior Member
    Agree with the others if you are telling the truth then you need an attorney A DUI/DWI is going to have repercussions for a long time in more ways than just a gigantic increase in insurance. Where are your parents on this whole thing? Is it "legal" in your state for kids to have a drink in their home with their parents? SUI/DWI is quite different than "driving recklessly" or something else - an attorney can influence how the charge is handled. Finally I'm assuming you are charged not convicted. Most apps ask if you are convicted of this or that - which at this point you have not been convicted. Technicality -- but it is one of the things a lawyer can help your family think through in terms of perhaps getting your apps done and submitted quickly. I can understand why you might have felt you needed to resign your school posts, but that is in my opinion premature if you have stated the facts. There is something strange about this entire story, so at glance I, too, think an attorney needs to sort it our through proper channels.
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