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Just smile and nod...smile and nod

DougBetsyDougBetsy Registered User Posts: 5,830 Senior Member
edited April 2013 in Parents Forum
It's that time of year. Well-meaning family and friends blurt-out unimformed reactions to our college news. What masters of self-control we must be to keep from laughing in their faces or kicking them in the shin.

Some comments we've heard about Son attending Wake Forest:
"OMG! You do know that's run by Baptists, right?"
"Too bad he has to go someplace so small."

On the ROTC scholarship:
"Why doesn't he want to go to college?"

What have you encountered? Share it here. We'll laugh and comisserate together.
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Replies to: Just smile and nod...smile and nod

  • austinmtmomaustinmtmom Registered User Posts: 2,356 Senior Member
    Good idea DB! I have been wanting to get this off my chest and now I have a place to do so!!

    "Too bad you couldn't afford to send her to NYU. But I'm sure that other school is good too."
    Okay folks. Our D is not going to NYU because she WANTS to go to Coastal Carolina U - not because we couldn't afford to send her to NYU. She felt like CCU was a better fit for her and she loves, loves, loves the program at CCU. So as crazy as it apparently seems to all of you, that's what happened. Okay?

    Wow - I feel better already ;)
  • fishymomfishymom Registered User Posts: 1,849 Senior Member
    What a great thread, I love the title!
  • momof3sonsmomof3sons Registered User Posts: 5,116 Senior Member
    MY DS #2 is encountering and will forever be encountering the same thing as his older brother encountered when people ask where he's going to college.

    "So, where did you decide to go to college?"
    DS#2 "Swarthmore."
    "Isn't that a girls school???"
    DS#2 "No, you're thinking of Skidmore, which used to be all women and is located in upstate New York. I'm going to Swarthmore, which has always been co-ed and is located just outside Philly."

    Followed by a blank stare from the inquiring person....:)
  • rjpfl5rjpfl5 Registered User Posts: 189 Junior Member
    The Swarthmore comment is funny... My son was considering applying there at one time and he was asked quite a few times "Isn't that a girls school?" Being from Florida, we didn't understand where the comment was coming from.
  • anothercrazymomanothercrazymom Registered User Posts: 1,736 Senior Member
    "William & Mary, where is that? I've never heard of it?" You've got to be kidding me!

    "William & Mary, I'm sure it will be fine, don't feel bad he isn't going to an Ivy." I didn't feel badly about that, thanks.

    "he can always transfer" Why would he?
  • sozesoze Registered User Posts: 2,261 Senior Member
    I went to Brandeis, and for the last thirty years I've had people surprised because they thought it was an all-girls school (isn't and never was).
  • rockvillemomrockvillemom Registered User Posts: 6,676 Senior Member
    My favorite came from my mother-in-law - who hasn't a clue about colleges but, of course, thinks she knows everything. When cousins chose to go to Kent State, University of Buffalo and University of Oklahoma - she informed me of what wonderful schools they had chosen. When my son chose Wake Forest, she sniffed and said she hadn't heard of it.
  • LINYMOMLINYMOM Registered User Posts: 2,306 Senior Member
    Thanks for a place to post this! I could have bet money on the fact that this particular person was going to say something nasty about my D's school - University of Delaware. D is BEYOND EXCITED about going there in the Fall. Thank goodness she didn't hear this person say to me:

    "My niece loved it there. We went for graduation and, when we got out of the car, all we could smell was cattle. My daughter said she would never go there because of the smell."

    I couldn't freaking believe she said that. Of course, her D just decided to go to Princeton, which must be a perfect school. Oh, and I don't think she was "well-meaning."

    Now, when I went to Northwestern, everyone said, "Oh, in Boston?"

    NO! That's NorthEASTERN! Northwestern is outside of Chicago! Sheesh!
  • GTalumGTalum Registered User Posts: 2,679 Senior Member
    Me: "My daughter is going to Williams"
    Them: Blank stare
    Me: It's really a good school and it's a great fit for her with great academics and a sporty campus.
    Them: Oh. Do you mean William and Mary?
    Me: No, Williams is northwest Ma.
    Them: Why is she going so far?

    Thanks for letting me vent.
  • anothercrazymomanothercrazymom Registered User Posts: 1,736 Senior Member
    TheGFG, I got that when my son went to boarding school. If one more person had said to me,"I could never send my child away" I would have smacked them! My sister was the worst offender, yes I missed out on some things, but S had a wonderful 4 years, socially, academically and he had some opportunites not offered at the local HS. I am not saying it was better, but it worked for him. I think people now wonder if it was a waste because he is not going to an Ivy!
  • sozesoze Registered User Posts: 2,261 Senior Member

    This is where you really need to remember that "those that matter, know."

    Congrats BTW!
  • KelownaKelowna Registered User Posts: 2,829 Senior Member
    I think that most people have reactions like above^^, we just tend to remember the "offenders" ;)
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