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So Sad...

keylymekeylyme 2778 replies47 threads Senior Member
edited September 2007 in Prep School Admissions
We just moved our youngest into bs today. My daughter leaves Saturday for her freshman year at college and my eldest is a senior in college....that's it....we are empty nesters. I am sad. Youngest telephoned this evening at around 10:00pm, whispering because he wasn't supposed to be on the phone after 10. Said he had met some neat people (first friend he made was someone from Nepal, which is pretty cool for him as we live in a totally homogenous area....all white, middle income). He is happy, but I miss him.
edited September 2007
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  • D'yer MakerD'yer Maker 3348 replies73 threads Senior Member
    You can have my 8 year-old drama queen daughter and I'll be the empty-nester. Win-win?
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  • goaliedadgoaliedad 2158 replies41 threads Senior Member
    He'll be back soon enough, so don't worry and don't start converting his room in to your office!

    I remember sending Goaliegirl away the first year. It was a bit quiet (even though our (now 17 yr old Nongoalieson) is still living with us. The good thing was that I wasn't driving her 700 or more miles every weekend anymore. Although I liked the quality time in the car, I'm still trying to lose the weight I gained on the road all those years.

    Nongoalieson, is still with us, but is not around much between school and job. So it will be quiet soon enough again.
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  • Burb ParentBurb Parent 2010 replies90 threads Senior Member
    It's sad, but it's also an opportunity to rediscover yourself and your spouse. I became an empty-nester of sorts this time last year. There were a few sad months figuring out how to re-invent myself. Now things are good, and I'm doing some things professionally that I didn't think I would ever do. Also, I'm an active volunteer for our upcoming Library Fair. I used to be an active volunteer at my son's last school, but didn't do much for the town. I'm not looking forward to bringing my only back to school. However, it will be much easier than last year.
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  • smile dogsmile dog 273 replies0 threads Junior Member
    OH NO-OOOOOO!!!!!

    I've been trying to push off thinking about the very thing you're experiencing right now. A week from Sunday we'll be dropping off Smile Pup 2 at BS and 5 days later Smile Pup 1 leaves for freshman year at college...I'm not sure I can bear it!

    I'm fairly sure the Pups are going to be totally happy at their new schools so I'm not worried, but I know that when Pup 1 left for BS I just flat out missed him. Now with Pup 2 leaving, I'll not only miss him (UGH!) but I'm going to miss the me I was when they (or at least one of them) were home.

    Very sad. And it hasn't even happened yet!
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  • blairtblairt 1599 replies136 threads Senior Member
    Just thing of all of the laundry you used to have to wash...
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  • baseballmombaseballmom 1566 replies44 threads Senior Member
    smile dog-When D went to BS I held up just fine for 24 hours until I was in the grocery store and passed one of favorite items on the shelf. I burst out crying. I live in a small town and had to get out of there quick before I ran into someone I knew!
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  • drnanciedrnancie 438 replies23 threads Member
    I too will be an empty nester after 22 years. I am quite sad.
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  • D'yer MakerD'yer Maker 3348 replies73 threads Senior Member
    Seriously...I've got a spare 8 year-old drama queen available to fill the void. Even if it's just weekends, we can work out a deal I'm sure. Send a PM if you think the grass is greener on the "kids still at home" side of the fence.
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  • smile dogsmile dog 273 replies0 threads Junior Member
    Baseballmom - yup, it's definitely the little things that you never thought twice about before that totally smack you in the face now that they're gone; things like passing up that favorite food. In my case, I think it will be not hearing all the little noises (humming, brushing of teeth, shuffling of papers, etc.) that have been the soundtrack of Pup 2's life that are going to force collapse.

    D'yer - thanks for the offer. I'll definitely bear that in mind! How does your daughter like her pancakes? I make a pretty mean chocolate chip pancake, if I do say so.
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  • D'yer MakerD'yer Maker 3348 replies73 threads Senior Member
    Can you guess what she had for breakfast today? Now that's some serious karma. All we need to do now is get your airport code and book the flight. PM me and we'll wrap it all up post haste. Thanks.
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  • edconsultant22edconsultant22 58 replies2 threads Junior Member
    I am in the opposite situation as all of you! I have 2 kids under 2 and we just decided that a 3rd is in our future. I have to hide in the bathroom to get a moment to myself.
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  • keylymekeylyme 2778 replies47 threads Senior Member
    Well...now we are officially "empty nesters". Dropped daughter off at college yesterday. This, by the way, was much more labor-intensive than dropping son off at bs. It took many hours and trips to nearby stores to get the room totally up to she and her roommate's specs.
    Today, Mr. lyme and I drove to a chocolatier not too far from where we live (but that we'd never had time to visit). Tomorrow we are headed to the White Mts. to knock off two our 4000-footers (we are almost done the list; we started back in the 1980's, but family obligations made it impossible to hike much the past ten years).
    I am still sad and do miss the kids, but I certainly do seem to have a lot of time to do things all of a sudden!
    I did hear from both kids today; they are enjoying themselves, meeting new people, and no homesickness yet!
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  • D'yer MakerD'yer Maker 3348 replies73 threads Senior Member
    That is awesome! You went to the too-busy-to-get-to chocolatier today and you're off TOMORROW! to finish off the White Mountains! No moss is gathering on this empty nest! I pity the White Mountains...as they will surely be no match for the lymes.
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  • keylymekeylyme 2778 replies47 threads Senior Member
    Well, the mountains kicked our butt! I am so sore; not just my legs, but my arms, shoulders, and pects as well. This was one steep hill. The route itself was an 11-mile loop; it was flat to an easy uphill grade for the first 2.5 miles. Then it was a moderate uphill for another mile. Then....1600 feet in 1.2 mile....ouch! It was just shy of a technical climb with lots of exposure on steep rock and I was quite certain I would either die or suffer from great physical pain. (The route follows an old land-slide). At the top of the slide, the trail continued very steeply through the woods to the summit. Spectacular views from the top of the slide, I might add. We then crossed all three summits of this mountain, with only two counting toward the 4000-footer list as the southernmost peak does not have the requisite elevation separation from its neighboring peak. Then....the route down from the South peak was another slide. This one was all loose talus for about a mile. I was walking like a drunkard over the last two miles. I guess you could call it fun, though!

    Last night we were still tired from our hike, so we grilled out and enjoyed the Sox (Red) game. Tonight we are going to catch our local public hs soccer game (where my son attended last year) and then might hop over to the local state college to see a game as well (we know two boys on the team). We are so addicted to watching our kids play sports, it's hard not to have that going on right now. They literally never stopped, with activities every night. We are just not used to not having somewhere to drive! (Of course, this is temporary while we wait for their school sports to begin).

    We have not heard from my bs son since Sunday and mr. lyme is quite distraught. I am less distraught, but slightly baffled. Has he lost his cell phone? Does his computer not work? His sister (at college) has phoned several times; she has not heard from him either. He has never been a caller, though, and has been away several times before. I can only assume that he is busy and all is well. Anyone else experience a freshman who doesn't call much?
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  • prettyckittyprettyckitty 1313 replies50 threads Senior Member
    Very neat, kylyme. :)
    I will be staying on here, waiting for the day that Princess D'yer goes off to boarding school or college, some six or ten years from now, and D'yer Maker will be posting "I take all of my posts back! I would kill to see her in high heels and fairy wings now!"
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  • baseballmombaseballmom 1566 replies44 threads Senior Member
    keylyme...there are only two reason for his not calling.

    #1. He is one happy, busy little camper spreading his wings and enjoying his freedom.
    #2. He is a prisoner and has had his cell phone confiscated.

    My money's on #1. :)
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  • D'yer MakerD'yer Maker 3348 replies73 threads Senior Member
    No matter how rational and sane it is to believe that silence means success, and no matter how happy we should feel for our child when s/he's too busy with life to report in, there's a certain degree of agony that goes along with not having that information confirmed and not being able to share it and feel a part of it. Suspecting or assuming your child is having the best possible experience is wonderful. Getting debriefed is sweeter still. And the anticipation of that sweet release can be downright excruciating.

    (Upon re-reading this, I apologize if it sounds like I lifted it from a teen romance novel; but I'm sticking with it because I think it's right.)
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  • D'yer MakerD'yer Maker 3348 replies73 threads Senior Member
    @ prettyckitty: I am unicorned and puppy dogged out for this lifetime. If I ever yearn for the days of overpriced Disney princess paraphernalia, ponies with flowing pink manes and their own curling irons, or stifling my scream after being gouged by Barbie stiletto shoes as I tip-toe from her room after tucking her in, shoot me immediately.
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  • creative1creative1 1613 replies44 threads Senior Member
    D'yer Maker - be careful what you wish for! I've seen many an 8 year old going on 16 - not a pretty sight. Keep her as young as possible as long as possible. Yeah to the unicorns, princesses and pink!
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  • NovelistoNovelisto 2937 replies18 threads Senior Member
    Just make sure no individual piece of pink paraphernalia has been recalled lately...that could be a full-time job on it's own.

    My D is also incommunicado since Sunday. Maybe they've been asked not to phone home for the first week to give them a chance to get settled? She said her roommates are great, her room is fine, and the food is delicious. I guess that's all we really need to know...but it's not enough, dangit!
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