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How to convince your parents to let you go to prep school


Replies to: How to convince your parents to let you go to prep school

  • A08842A08842 Registered User Posts: 2,554 Senior Member
    It was definitely my idea all the way from sixth grade. My parents still don't know more than half of the schools I am applying to. X_X
  • LondonLadyLondonLady Registered User Posts: 132 Junior Member
    My dad is behind me now but he and my mum are both a bit nervous.
    Hopefully, if i get in ;)) they will let me go.
    My mum is banking on me not getting in :(
  • GryffinHunterGryffinHunter Registered User Posts: 586 Member
    I've bugged them since 5th grade.
  • natakwalinatakwali Registered User Posts: 128 Junior Member
    My parents weren't really on board until they talked to a prep school mom who raved about the experience. Maybe an intervention from someone knowledgeable whose opinion your parents value is in order?
  • agentwoodagentwood Registered User Posts: 92 Junior Member
    While BS is a wonderful opportunity, don't go just so you can get away from your parents. Make sure you want to go for the experience.
  • stargirl3stargirl3 Registered User Posts: 3,370 Senior Member
    My mom cried at the first interview. Two years later, after opening her eyes to all the opportunities, she almost cried at the thought of keeping me home.
  • pirlotottiitalypirlotottiitaly Registered User Posts: 66 Junior Member
    Get your parents involved and give them Deep valid reasons why you want to go and thank them a ton for letting you apply and say u couldn't do it without them and say all the pros about it. Worked for me
  • snowyowlgalsnowyowlgal Registered User Posts: 35 Junior Member
    Show them the application process and let them get involved! I can't say much else because my parents really don't care, but you can also show them boarding school success stories!
  • LateNightReadshdLateNightReadshd Registered User Posts: 34 Junior Member
    Yeah, I feel you. I remember when I wanted an Instagram in seventh grade, I had to make a presentation to show why they should let me get Instagram.
    That being said, my parents really like to hear facts(and also opinions) and not just "Amy's parents let her--- or "everyone else got to--". I've always wanted to go away for boarding school, the first time I mentioned it to my parents I was eight. They dismissed the idea and said no. Years later, and I was able to convince them about all of the benefits boarding school could offer me. We went to a couple Home talks, discuss where you get invited to a student's house to discuss the school, and they ended hopping onto my train wagon. :)
    Just make sure to be serious about why you want to go, how you benefit, and show them some schools nearby your house in case they are weary of you being far away.
  • badminton4lifebadminton4life Registered User Posts: 36 Junior Member
    It all depends on which private school you go to. If it is barely better than your public school then don't go, but if its top or the best "fit" for you and the public school has many reasons for why you do not want to go then you can tell your parents about the cons of public vs cons of private, and then pros for both and see why boarding/private school is better.
  • GreekBeanGreekBean Registered User Posts: 4 New Member
    When I told my parents I wanted to apply for boarding schools, they didn't really take me serious, so to prove I was dedicated to the idea I picked out a list of schools that I was interested in and asked my parents for their help applying. Once they started to help with the applications, I think they both realized the school I was already at wasn't as good for me as they thought it was. If you can show that boarding school will provide you with a solid education, a comfortable social environment, and open you up to activities and experiences that will broaden your horizons I think your parents will be willing to let you go.

    (Trust me. My dad started crying when I told him I made the final decision to go to Connecticut. Parents will be hurt, but they will want the best for you if you can prove it's good.)
  • StandardizedGirlStandardizedGirl Registered User Posts: 40 Junior Member
    I agree with @GreekBean. When I first talked to my parents about boarding school - I was in 6th grade - I wasn't THAT serious about it, so they were able to make me shut up with a simple "High school is too early to live by yourself."

    However, by the end of 7th grade, I was REAALLY attached to the idea and them hating it wasn't going to make me give up. So, I first talked to my sister, who was a college grad at the time, and asked her to convince my mom. My very eloquent sister was able to convince her to let me go - to a school max. 4 hours from home. Then, I asked my English teacher to recommend me some schools, and every single one of them was >4 hr distance to home. When I talked to her about the situation and showed her all the schools' websites and PROVED how going to BS would be a wonderful opportunity, she seemed pretty convinced. Now, both of my parents are very excited for me.

    Let me say this: don't expect your parents to change their opinions entirely after an hour of discussing.

    But also make sure that you want to go to a BS because of the things it has to offer, not because you want to get away from your parents.
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