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Breaking the News to my Friendos!

lightningqueen12lightningqueen12 299 replies11 postsRegistered User Member
I haven't told ANY of my closest school friends that I'm applying to prep school! Nope, not one! M9 is right around the anxiety filled corner, I haven't got a clue what to do. I don't want to make my friends mad, so how should I break the news? (assuming that I get accepted somewhere)
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  • happy1happy1 22659 replies2223 postsVerified Member Senior Member
    At this point I'd wait until you hear from the schools and make a decision to attend before telling them.
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  • lightningqueen12lightningqueen12 299 replies11 postsRegistered User Member
    That was what I was planning to do, but I don't really know how to tell then after the decision.
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  • misslilbookwormmisslilbookworm 193 replies2 postsRegistered User Junior Member
    I told my friends, and I have to admit, it felt like they were icing me out because they were preparing for me to leave. I fixed things, but only 3 of my friends understand how serious I am about leaving if I get in.

    I've thought about how I'll tell them if I leave, though. I think I'll take each one by themselves, for example walk home with one, and explain why I've decided to go. For my 3 best friends (the ones who know) I don't know how I'll tell them without crying so hard, even though I'm the one leaving.
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  • lightningqueen12lightningqueen12 299 replies11 postsRegistered User Member
    Awwww, well I'm sure you'll get in, and best of luck with handling your friends!
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  • muchanxieoteamuchanxieotea 99 replies2 postsRegistered User Junior Member
    ah well i have a weird situation where my friends that are quite close and ik they're super nice and all, they know, but i didn't tell my super duper close friends in case i felt pressure from them to actually get in
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  • CavsFan2003CavsFan2003 890 replies70 postsRegistered User Member
    I plan on just telling my friends that I'm leaving and we'll keep in touch. In your situation, I'd just say something like "I love you all and I'm glad to be your friend, but I won't be going to school here anymore... I'll be attending BS at X."

    I need advice for how to tell my speech coach... he's going to be mad.
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  • misslilbookwormmisslilbookworm 193 replies2 postsRegistered User Junior Member
    My dad gave me some great advice today - when you tell your friends, don’t apologize for leaving! It’s what you want! Be happy about it, but it’s also okay express sadness that you won’t be together anymore.
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  • CC4lifeCC4life 244 replies10 postsRegistered User Junior Member
    I have many friends who currently attending boarding school and I think while it may be hard at first, it truly becomes much easier when you actually attend prep school in September. Honestly, you really don't go more than 3 weeks without some sort of long-weekend/break where people head home (especially if you are on the east coast) and visit their friends and family. Since boarding school breaks tend to be a little different than private or day school breaks, it is much easier to visit your friends at their schools and houses. I have had friends who went to junior boarding school in 6th grade and are still at boarding school now in 10 grade. I am still very close with all of them. I would really stress the fact that you are back very often and in today's world there is always FaceTime, snapchat, instagram, text, etc. for you to be able to connect with them.
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  • ffsophiarffsophiar 137 replies4 postsRegistered User Junior Member
    Wow, I’ve already talked my friends to death about it. Pretty sure they wanna get rid of me at this point. Just try to explain to them why it would be such a great thing for you, and if they’re real friends, they’ll understand and keep in touch!
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  • lightningqueen12lightningqueen12 299 replies11 postsRegistered User Member
    edited March 7
    @misslilbookworm, it is what I want! I was actually kinda planning on saying sorry, but I'm not sorry because this is my dream! That's a great piece of advice, @misslilbookworm's dad! No way I'm apologizing now.
    edited March 7
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  • dogsmama1997dogsmama1997 409 replies26 postsRegistered User Member
    When I was a kid my mom always said to use her as the fall guy. So while I recommended honesty in another thread like this, you can always blame your parents: “my parents decided I should go to XX school. They think it will be a better fit for me. I love you guys and I’ll see you every single vacation!”
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  • lightningqueen12lightningqueen12 299 replies11 postsRegistered User Member
    lol, but no. my friends would never believe me! actually, they might...but no.
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  • dogsmama1997dogsmama1997 409 replies26 postsRegistered User Member
    We are lucky. Half the kids in our school are applying private so it’s not a big deal. There is one friend who’s sad but we will make an extra effort to see her.
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  • lightningqueen12lightningqueen12 299 replies11 postsRegistered User Member
    about a third of the girls in my school go to a local all-girls private school. i don't know why they like it so much, and its acceptance rate is like 70%. there is only one other girl in my grade applying somewhere, and she is applying to choate like me, so I am hopeful for the both of us :)
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  • RedLionessRedLioness 64 replies0 postsRegistered User Junior Member
    If I may still comment on this forum (lmk @skieurope or other moderators if it's ok), this is something I had a lot of experience with in the past. In my opinion, it might be best to put off telling your friends until you know for sure that you're leaving (i.e. you get an acceptance on M10 or M9), because the admissions process is very harsh and many come out with no acceptances due to high competitiveness. It might be painful for them to think that you're leaving next year, only to find out - welp, no, you're not. (Mind, I went this route for the most part and people can get impatient when you're out of school for days with little explanation. It involves a lot of secrecy)

    OTOH, it could be better to give them notice as soon as you start the admissions process so you have a place to rant to as well as adjusting them to the idea of you going away the next year. Really depends on your own situation.(I had a few close friends I did this with and they were decidedly not appreciative of the constant raving, so mind that too!)

    And make sure to explicitly talk to everyone who might miss you! I just kind of let the news spread around and some of my friends found out on the very last day of school, which isn't a favourable situation at all, I can tell you.
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  • ffsophiarffsophiar 137 replies4 postsRegistered User Junior Member
    @RedLioness yikes. when I told my four friends, their attitude was "cool. see you on Christmas vacation."
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  • RedLionessRedLioness 64 replies0 postsRegistered User Junior Member
    @ffsophiar haha, that's priceless! I had friends like that too, and I couldn't quite decide whether I should be hurt, amused, or relieved.
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  • ffsophiarffsophiar 137 replies4 postsRegistered User Junior Member
    @RedLioness well, boarding school’s a perfect place to find better ones!
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  • RedLionessRedLioness 64 replies0 postsRegistered User Junior Member
    @ffsophiar yes, exactly!
    At least that's the hope, anyway... :sweat_smile:
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