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Freaking out that my kid WILL get in?


Replies to: Freaking out that my kid WILL get in?

  • GoatMamaGoatMama Registered User Posts: 1,156 Senior Member
    Do FA packages include $ for travel?

    Some do, others don't. Two years ago, we had an opportunity to compare FA packages of 7 schools. You can PM me if you want specifics.
  • narcissediaz98narcissediaz98 Registered User Posts: 67 Junior Member
    @RuralAmerica I love your post, so much! Best of luck to you as you pursue your degree. You and your daughter’s story reminds me of Gilmore Girls!
  • Happytimes2001Happytimes2001 Registered User Posts: 1,185 Senior Member
    Not to mention paying for it. For us, and I think for many-the payments will represent a change in lifestyle. It means less money for retirement, vacations, eating out, working more and all the rest. We're going to have to weigh this against the value. Already dropped a number of schools since it wasn't worth the money, couldn't see going there and the schools didn't represent enough value vis-a-vis the local public school. I think many have the post traumatic moment after their kid gets in. Start the conversation of is this really what you want and is this really what we want as a family. Plus, add in a kid or two and you have to do the math. Do you want to spend the money on high school versus grad school ( assuming college is paid for). Are you willing to have your kids take on debt for undergrad? (We are not). So many things to consider. For people who live in areas where it is the only option for a high achieving kid you know the path you want to follow. But for others who have multiple options, its like multivariable calculus. Still looking forward to M10.
  • buuzn03buuzn03 Registered User Posts: 1,505 Senior Member
    @RuralAmerica I just got out the tissues. I can't imagine empty nest just yet and being a single parent with minimal distractions...wow, that had to have been tough! Kudos to you, my friend, for sacrificing this for your girl!!!
  • cj9623cj9623 Registered User Posts: 22 Junior Member
    Thank you all so much for your responses. I had to get the tissues out (again) when reading them all! I especially can appreciate the Wizard of Oz reference. I appreciate everyone's candor, and the advice to just feel all the emotions because it IS hard. Sending virtual hugs to all of you!
  • buuzn03buuzn03 Registered User Posts: 1,505 Senior Member
    @cj9623 I agree that @twinsmama hit the nail on the head with Oz analogy. Meanwhile, I’ve realized how spoiled I’ve become with DSs calls/texts because I haven’t heard from him in over 24 hours and I’m going crazy! I just sent him a tantrum gif (now that I know classes are over for the day...). Hopefully that will get a response lol.

    If you ever need commiserating, you have plenty of people here who feel your pain...& will feel your pride/joy!
  • GoatMamaGoatMama Registered User Posts: 1,156 Senior Member
    @cj9623 You're not alone. These trepidations grow as the reality of BS encroaches. My own freaking out a couple of year ago left behind some gracious words of wisdom by fellow CC parents. You too may find them helpful:
    https://talk.collegeconfidential.com/prep-school-parents/1864384-im-leaving-i-love-you-but-im-leaving-p1.html. Best wishes!
  • buuzn03buuzn03 Registered User Posts: 1,505 Senior Member
    @GoatMama reading that thread was a huge surprise to me...I never would have pictured you in that state...you seem so in control of this whole situation...I'll admit, you were one of the very first who struck a chord with me when I joined CC...I can't remember the contact, but you calmed me down and gave me so much encouragement..I'll always be grateful for that....nice to know even the greatest warriors may have a chink in their armor!
  • buuzn03buuzn03 Registered User Posts: 1,505 Senior Member
    ^no. You may not. That is unacceptable
  • preppedparentpreppedparent Registered User Posts: 3,348 Senior Member
    ^^if it didn't wreak havoc on their confidence, rejection wouldn't be such a bad thing.
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