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Discussing Admissions Results with your child

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  • JayPeehJayPeeh Registered User Posts: 141 Junior Member
    ...if there's got to be a certain percentage of declines, then the news from your dream schools that's coming next is more likely to be positive!
    drat... oh, how i wish i hadn't studied probabilities and statistics so avidly in college!
  • BenleyBenley Registered User Posts: 1,643 Senior Member
    LOL I know it's risky - I gambled! Fortunately I got it right. On a serious note however, I think we were very prepared to deal with a situation where none of the top schools admitted him. The fact that a good day school that offered everything we needed was already under the belt helped, so my reaction I described above was more of a cushion for the mental blow at that point. Not that it's something anyone should "imitate".
  • grinzinggrinzing Registered User Posts: 116 Junior Member
    Prepare for another possibility too--Waitlists! The number of WLs last year was huge as schools manage yield. For us, S had all WL and we were in limbo for another month and did not attend re-visits. From March 10 on, for the next month, we juggled expectations--try to remain optimistic but also be okay with staying at the local school. We even got a call from one HADES school during this time saying we were a provisional admit and stand by (not sure what that meant other than we were close) but the acceptance never came. After April 10 our facts changed again--acceptance and a new mindset again that he was going to BS. It was quite an emotional month and I am not sure how one prepares for it.
  • neatoburritoneatoburrito Registered User Posts: 3,449 Senior Member
    Most of the time (and I'm glad it wasn't for grinzing) a waitlist is the same as deny, for practical purposes anyway.
  • Sadie2Sadie2 Registered User Posts: 369 Member
    Good to point out, grinzing.

    Last year my D was accepted, but waitlisted for FA. It never came. This year I hope we dont go through that experience ( x 6) but wouldn't surprise me. I suspect she is well within the large percentage of applicants who are very well qualified, but not shoe-ins. And no hook, and FA.
  • Chelsea1Chelsea1 Registered User Posts: 95 Junior Member
    My son applied to 3 schools last year for 9th grade and was waitlisted at one and rejected at the other 2. We opened the letters together. It broke my heart watching him experience rejection like that at such a young age. We had looked at 11 schools and only applied to 3 (big mistake). After the disappointment settled, we started discussing with him about going through the process again and where he might want to look. He kept mentioning 2 schools where he had already interviewed but had not applied. In the end of April, I got on the phone and asked if they would consider a late application. To my surprise, both schools remembered him and said yes. Within 2 weeks, we had 2 acceptances letters in hand. I opened the letters the 2nd time around. I didn't want him to experience rejection again. He was so excited when he found out. I am not sure whether he even questioned who would open the letters. He just wanted to know if he got in or not.
  • Sadie2Sadie2 Registered User Posts: 369 Member
    Chelsea, that is really touching. I am so glad for him.
  • wcmom1958wcmom1958 Registered User Posts: 351 Member
    I'm surprised that no one here has brought up wondering if the applications were good enough. We rushed a little bit and with the on-line apps felt like it was a little chaotic. I've been telling d that if she doesn't get into one of the five it could be just that our applications were not as polished as they might have been if we'd taken months,instead of weeks, to prepare. Also, two of the schools were too booked to do interviews (long distance) but said it didn't matter. I could handle not getting enough FA better than seeing my child hurt.
  • Sadie2Sadie2 Registered User Posts: 369 Member
    Dont feel bad, wcmom, we rushed too. Although we went through this process last year, with just one school, and should have known better. Over Christmas break is I think when most kids work on their essays, etc., well our Christmas break was a big wash out - sometimes life just gets in the way.

    My advice to anyone planning on this next year is you can not start too early!

    But who knows, maybe the admissions fairy is watching over!
  • wcmom1958wcmom1958 Registered User Posts: 351 Member
    Thanks Sadie2. I can't imagine. We applied to five schools and are nervous. SO where are you now?
  • BlueRaven1BlueRaven1 Registered User Posts: 2,109 Senior Member
    On leaving your applications to late, I did all my essays in the week leading up to January 15th with one started at 10pm on the deadline. Now THAT'S rushed ;)
  • kraordrawohkraordrawoh Registered User Posts: 593 Member
    "What is written without effort is generally read without pleasure." Samuel Johnson
  • BlueRaven1BlueRaven1 Registered User Posts: 2,109 Senior Member
    I never said I put no effort into it. Writing is something I'm good at :)
  • assignassign Registered User Posts: 712 Member
    @wcmom1958: I literally spent 2 days writing and editing my essays for my top choices. Unfortunately, writing is not my particular strength since I'm not a native speaker. I was also waived the interview at another school. And I need full FA. Feeling pessimistic.
  • JayPeehJayPeeh Registered User Posts: 141 Junior Member
    I never said I put no effort into it. Writing is something I'm good at
    blue, no one ever said so much in so few words! i love it!
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