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  • Re: Equifax data breach, 143 million people affected

    Consumers has a nice article about what else you may need to do to protect yourself: https://www.consumerreports.org/equifax/a-freeze-wont-help-with-all-equifax-breach-threats/

    They point out that if you haven't established an account with social security, someone else could do so in your name and, if you're 62, claim your social security. It just gets more fun all the time.
  • Re: Amazon Prime Day, July 11

    I'm always a little suspicious of Prime Day and the like. I just looked at the Instant Pot and it's selling around $130, near where it has been for months. But very recently the price shot up to list -- I assume so they can boast of a price drop. Bought my dtr a laptop from them once right before Black Friday. I bought it a few hours before, as a matter of fact, thinking I would cancel and redo it if the price dropped. But what actually happened is the price went UP, and never came down again till after the holidays. I 'm sure there are a few loss leaders, but mostly it's a rip-off.
  • Re: Yale Parents thread

    @IxnayBob - Yale Health Urgent Care is hit or miss for things like suturing -- it depends on the skill set of the doc who happens to be working there at the time. Plenty of ER docs do moonlight there, but so do doctors from other specialties. It shouldn't surprise you to learn that in our ultra-specialized world, plenty of doctors never have occasion to care for wounds. You wouldn't want one of them (me, for example) stitching a laceration on your kid. I only got to repair one laceration in residency and none since -- and I do primary care. Also hand lacerations can be tricky if there's any question as to whether deeper structures were affected.
  • Re: Toxic Older Brother

    One way to think about this is to take a behavioral approach. If you don't like the way your brother is acting toward you, ignore the behavior -- negative responses as well as positive ones can encourage a behavior pattern to continue. Don't be obvious about this -- a stony silence IS a response. If you do it well, he won't realize what you are doing. So don't react to provocative statements-- change the subject, and get away from him or pay less attention to him, and -- importantly -- give him lots of positive attention when he is not doing stuff that upsets you or is being nice. The less response he gets to his critical comments, the less rewarding they will be to him, and you should gradually see them decrease and hopefully stop.

    I don't see that you can or should do anything about his relationship withyour father, though.
  • Re: Personal Essay - How "narrative" should it really be?

    There is no one right way to write an essay. My older daughter wrote hers about expository writing, using expository writing to do so, and led around to her discovery of and passion for feminism. There was no anecdote, and she did quite well in college admissions, probably because of her essay, which was out of the box.

    That said, there are some things a successful essay has to accomplish -- essentially, it's a way to market yourself to adcoms. A good essay hooks the reader's interest early. This is most often done by telling a story, but in D1's case I imagine the interest came from wondering how on earth she was going to turn her intro into into a college essay.

    The essay should make the reader get a little bit of a sense of you as a person -- specifically, something about how you think. Of course, the idea that you can condense who you are into a 600-word essay is pure nonsense, but it's the only part of your application that gives adcoms the illusion that they know something personal about you. (Why this is necessary or appropriate is a whole other discussion.)

    The essay should make it clear that you have something to contribute to a college community -- i.e., you have interests that will enrich the lives of your classmates and you don't plan to spend 4 years skipping classes and surfing the web in your room. Clearly your interest in music fulfills this.

    And finally, the best essays make the reader like the writer.

    Accomplishing all this is a tall order but it's do-able, and there are a million ways to do it.

    Finally-- please, please, please get feedback from a trusted adult. It is often hard to tell how your writing comes across to others, and most people have to work through multiple drafts. I have been astonished at how many people write self-sabotaging essays. One essay draft I read included a confession of how the writer had failed to live up to his potential in high school-- not a good way to sell strangers on admitting you to their college!

    One last thought -- your essay doesn't have to be perfect, and most essays neither help nor harm college applications. But if you write a really good (or bad) essay, it can make a real difference in your chances for admission. I wish you luck!