One thing that sure would help is if women stopped leaning so quickly into value judgements against other women who do complain. At best, it's not helpful. At worst, it says shutup. That goes for comments about appearance, dress, the suggestions it's not that bad, and more. Thanks, @Thelma2 , for going to bat against a poor sitiation.
Funny, but I'm usually not a "sisterhood" sort, rather about merit. But on a few threads now, it jumps out how a number of women are not supportive.
"The final premium tax credit will be calculated based on the household size reported on a person’s tax return, even if unexpected events mean that the return includes more or fewer dependents than projected. For example, a married couple has a projected household income of $35,000 (226% of the federal poverty line for a family of 2 in 2014) when their premium tax credit is calculated during open enrollment. But early in the year, the couple’s 21-year-old son loses his job and moves back home. When the couple files their 2014 tax return, they discover that their son can be claimed as a dependent. With the same income, their federal poverty line percentage is now based on a household of three and falls to 179% of the federal poverty line. This means their expected family contribution toward the premium is lower and their overall credit is higher. This family may get a refund for the additional credit amount. (If the family had reported that change mid-year, they could have received the higher premium tax credit in advance.)
However, suppose the same family initially projected a household of three (parents and son) and claimed a premium tax credit for all three based on an income at 179% of the federal poverty line. The premium tax credit for the couple (both 40 years old) and their 21-year-old son is $7,145 per year (or $595 per month). But as of July 1, the son gets a job and his income is such that he is no longer a dependent for the tax year. The parents report this change right away and their premium tax credit is now recalculated based on a household of two. At the same income, their maximum annual premium tax credit for 2014 is $3,961. They have already received $3,570 for January through June. For the remainder of the year, they will receive $391 ($65/month)." http://www.healthreformbeyondthebasics.org/question-of-the-day/
But, it seems they are not reporting him as a dependent in their taxes for that year. And noname and others would have that same option.
I wanted to raise this because the instructions are so crappy an few examples cover more than divorce/custody and special allocating. When D1 got her job, we were not penalized, but I may have done some CYA.
Like my mashed potatoes lumpy. It's one thing when the kids gripe, but even my foodie friend is willing to state she doesn't liiiike lumpy. Tough. ;( I also like them with plain yogurt. Maybe an acquire taste.
First, whether you completely forgive someone because he/she apologized (or it "sounds" genuine,) is a high ethics question. IOW, it's not that simple. And certainly not when the burden is still carried by the victim.
Second, I shuddered at the implications in, "When you’re a star they let you do it.” No!