It’s all relative. I was born and raised in Massachusetts and went to college in Connecticut, so New England was my benchmark for polite and pleasant social behavior. I spent one summer during college in Israel and, at first, could not believe how rude the Israelis were. I’d walk into a store and they wouldn’t even acknowledge my presence. They were often, umm, let’s say, abrupt.
I was talking to an Israeli about it one day and his take was that he found Americans really phony. He had been in NYC not long before (hardly the capital of smiles and friendliness). He was staying in a hotel and when he came down in the morning and the woman at the front desk asked how he slept, it didn’t ping friendly to him, just fake and annoying because he knew she didn’t really care. It gave me a whole new perspective.
My understanding is that Europeans generally think Americans (even northerners) smile too much. We come across as untrustworthy because the smiles don’t seem genuine.
One person's pleasant social lubrication is another person's fakeness and insincerity.
I love travel for the opportunity to see things from new perspectives.
I would imagine one factor in successfully going to college in a different culture is the ability to see things from a different point of view.
I’d also urge any northern kid going to school in the south to learn the true meaning of "bless your heart." I have enough southern friends to know that that phrase is NOT as kind as it sounds.
Does the school consider demonstrated interest as a factor? If it does, she should definitely find the time for an interview. She’s applying EA, not ED. They know she’s not committed as she would be if she were applying ED and they can probably figure out that they’re a safety. Not being interested enough to find time for an interview (would she find time if it were her first choice school?) could lead them to reject or defer her on the grounds that she’s very unlikely to attend.
I think if you check, you’ll find that the undergrad admissions office and the law school admissions office are entirely separate. The law school application isn’t going to ask you where you applied undergrad. I can’t imagine that the law school admissions office is gong to check with undergrad admissions to see if you applied and, if so, what happened.
You’re starting with the wrong end of the stick. What do you want to do?
When people talk about your major not mattering, mostly what they mean is, that in a liberal arts context, you don’t have to major in something directly or even indirectly related to what your career ends up being.
You can go to law school with a neuroscience major.
There are philosophy majors who go to med school.
So start by trying to figure out what you’re good at, what you like doing, what you’re interested in. Talk to the career services office at your school. They will likely have some ideas to help you figure things out. Internships and information interviews can be a good way to learn about various industries and career paths. And it’s ok if your first job or two ends up being something that helps you explore.
I know it’s a big, scary world with an endless number of different jobs. But it’s ok. You don’t have to know at 20 what you want to be doing at 30 or 50.
So some places to start thinking about things are:
Do you want to be a healthcare professional of some sort, even if you’re not up for med school?
Do you want to do science in a non-medical context?
Are you thinking about engineering because you’re genuinely interested or because it’s there and you’re grasping at straws?
Do you want to do something more science adjacent, rather than actually working in science?
What else interests you?
Are you dead set against ever going to grad/professional school or do you just want to work for a while to take a break from school or figure out what you want to do?
You’ll likely get some answers to the specific questions in your post, but I promise you, if you could talk to a broad sample of people who ended up in careers unrelated to their major, you’d hear every possible permutation of how they got from their major to their career.
I would email him on Monday, confirming with specificity that everything your D needs is in place. Get him to confirm, in writing, that there will be no more than two proctors, that he will have personally gone over with the proctor(s) all the rules and procedures that apply to your D and her accommodations (i.e. list specifically that she gets a test booklet, that she can use her graphing calculator, that all time warnings will be given, etc, etc, all the things described above) . I would also tell him (not ask him) that in the case of any unexpected interruptions or delays, your daughter will be noting the time that such interruptions began and ended. Tell her to say it out loud to the proctor. In addition to accounting for the amount of time the fire drill ate up, I would say that the clock should have stopped while a higher authority was consulted about the calculator.