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parents of the class of 2013

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  • SmithieandProudSmithieandProud Registered User Posts: 3,038 Senior Member
    Most houses shut for Thanksgiving and you have to pay a fee to stay on campus. Also, there is no dining and no gaurantee that the houses that are open will have kitchens (I got very good at cooking on a George Foreman grill when I stayed on campus for Spring break). For international students, there are sometimes arrangements made for them to be able to spend Thanksgiving with a local family or they just do their own thing.

    I lived on the West Coast and I just got myself invited home every Thanksgiving to stay with friends. It was never worth the expense to get home for a very short break, and I always had friends willing to take me in. It was really fun to get to experience Thanksgiving from the perspective of another family and to try out a real New England Thanksgiving. I found it challenging enough to get home for Christmas (warning: airports will be a disaster, delays are almost inevitable, prepare to spend several anxious hours/days wondering if you'll be home in time for Christmas) without having to worry about Thanksgiving or Spring Break. I missed my family, but that's part of the trade-off you make when you choose to go to college 2,500 miles away from home.
  • CarolynBCarolynB Registered User Posts: 1,068 Senior Member
    We have invited our daughter's West Coast roommate to our Massachusetts home for Thanksgiving. We'll see if she takes us up on the offer as she apparently has a relative in NYC, I believe. If you can bear your daughter not coming home for Thanksgiving, perhaps she could go to a friend's nearby home. I see that you live in a Mid-Atlantic state. Have you explored Amtrak as a possibly cheaper alternative? In some ways, with the early arrival required by airlines, it almost evens out with the longer train time. A friend of ours travels quite somewhat frequently from Philly to Providence, finds it very pleasant and not too expensive.
  • upbeatupbeat Registered User Posts: 76 Junior Member
    Thanks All, for your very helpful replies! Making friends with New Englanders is a wonderful choice and I hope she gets her nose out of her books long enough to make friends! Amtrak was just as expensive and I even checked out Greyhound..two stops and >10 hours of travel! Just a bit bemused on how quickly her Visa buxx card is emptying -she is flying home for autumn break as well. On the other hand, we had to laugh at the classic panicky email..please add more buxx!!! Maybe invest in that George Foreman grill :)
  • MomwaitingfornewMomwaitingfornew Registered User Posts: 5,821 Senior Member
    ^^ LOL! We were lucky that my daughter managed her funds well, but I have a friend whose son blew through an entire semester's budget in his first two weeks of college.
  • TheDadTheDad Registered User, ! Posts: 10,225 Senior Member
    S&P, as usual, sums up things pretty well. D had Thanksgiving invites ranging from very local to NYC...the time penalty for flying to/from the coasts, as well as the $$$, made coming home an unattractive option.

    Where D's experiences diverged is that she never had a problem getting home for Christmas and she generally flew through O'Hare!
    Once missed got out of there about 30 minutes before they closed down for a snow storm but that was the worst.
  • SmithieandProudSmithieandProud Registered User Posts: 3,038 Senior Member
    Flying home for Fall Break AND Thanksgiving? Wow, you guys are nice parents. I hope she doesn't regret not using that Fall Break time to get prepped for mid-terms and sleep in.

    During Fall Break, the dining halls stay open, so I always loved having the free, relaxed time to sleep in and get caught up. By that point in the semester I always needed a breather.
  • TheDadTheDad Registered User, ! Posts: 10,225 Senior Member
    Urrk, I'd missed the distinction between Fall break and Thanksgiving. No, Fall break was time for recharging or taking a trip to see friends in NYC or Boston. Never came home for that one.
  • borginborgin Registered User Posts: 616 Member
    Three of my four Smith Thanksgivings, I met my parents in Connecticut for the weekend (we're not really into a traditional Thanksgiving - my sister and I don't even like turkey). They drove or flew up from PA, I took the Foxwoods bus, and we spent the weekend relaxing at the casino.

    I did go home for fall break twice, but I didn't also go home for Thanksgiving those years. One fall break at Smith I went to Boston with a friend for a few days and for the other I found a bunch of shows that were in Northampton that weekend and saw them with a friend.

    The one time I went home for Thanksgiving I took the bus and the process took all day and quite a few buses, which wasn't a lot of fun.
  • upbeatupbeat Registered User Posts: 76 Junior Member
    "Flying home for Fall Break AND Thanksgiving? Wow, you guys are nice parents", well, what can I say, this is a first. We did consider driving up to spend Thanksgiving with her (we're not into turkey either), but "chickened" out at the thought of all the traffic. Next time, we'll plan better.

    Didn't realize that midterms were up soon after break...oh well, we'll spend the time reviewing cell bio and chem (my areas) and calculus (my husband's) and it will be like high school all over again =D
  • borginborgin Registered User Posts: 616 Member
    Midterms can happen anytime between the first week of classes and the last week of classes. I think the lucky ones have them all scheduled at once. Of course, they might not think themselves so lucky... :)
  • smithiegrsmithiegr Registered User Posts: 243 Junior Member
    If you're REALLY lucky, you'll have four for just that class PLUS a final.
  • SmithieandProudSmithieandProud Registered User Posts: 3,038 Senior Member
    Yeah, there's no "set" time for mid-terms and not all the classes have them, but usually right before or right after fall break is when your first slew of major tests and papers are due that mark the half-way point in the semester.

    I'm sure she'll be fine, and probably a little saner than I ever was for the going home. I'm always jealous of kids who were close enough to Smith that they could go home for the short breaks, even if it wasn't always cheap for them. I feel like going to college all the way across the country was very beneficial in some ways, I don't discount the good character building and independence that I built from it, nor how it prepped me for the "real world" where I still live away from my parents. But I love my folks and I missed them when I was at school and I miss them now that I work across the country from them. We remain close with email and calls, but I treasure all the face time we get the most. It was the same in college. Your D is very lucky and I'm sure she'll benefit from the coming home time.
  • PrairiePrairie Registered User Posts: 159 Junior Member
    We are now empty-nesters, after dropping our son off at college last Sunday. The house seems so quiet and still, and I'm somewhat stunned. Randomcoolzip, how's it going?
  • MomwaitingfornewMomwaitingfornew Registered User Posts: 5,821 Senior Member
    Prairie, I have loved being an empty-nester right from the beginning, as much as I miss my D. It helped a lot that she loved Smith; otherwise, I think the transition would have been tougher.

    With only one child, I went from right mother to empty nester. My husband and I have enjoyed being a couple again, without having to worry about where my D is at any given time or making sure she does X, Y, and Z. We subscribe to theater events, eat out more often, decide on our days more spontaneously. I don't have to worry about tailoring my schedule around sporting events and other school activities. I don't have to worry about dinner at a specific time.

    That doesn't mean that I don't miss her. I do. And I find it difficult when I want to phone her and either a. her phone is off or b. it has run out of batteries. And when she doesn't answer my emails. That was the tough transition -- to let her be out of reach without my getting hurt or angry.

    Some parents have a more difficult time than others. Here's what I always told myself: my whole job as a parent was to prepare my daughter to be an independent and productive adult. Now that it's happened, and I've succeeded (more or less), I should celebrate.
  • PrairiePrairie Registered User Posts: 159 Junior Member
    Thanks. You've addressed the issues very well.
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