A Conversation to have with New Boarders

2prepMom
Wed, 31 Jul 2013 19:17:47 +0000

This is an important topic. Depression, suicide and substance abuse can be found on all campuses. I would venture a guess that it is likely your child will come across another student who needs help (both my daughters did, each at a different boarding school).

Although their urge to help by themselves is strong, discuss why it is important to let an adult know that someone is having trouble adjusting - say a trusted advisor or “cool teacher.” “You won’t even have to go into the details with the adult. And your friend will very likely not get thrown out - a medical leave to get treatment is about the worst that can happen to a brand new student.”

Roleplay “What to do when your friend says…” and fill in the blanks with concerning statements. Encourage your own child to go to the counseling center to get help if they are staying up night after night trying to support their roommate or friend. The counseling center can help both of them, AND THEY WILL NOT GET IN TROUBLE.

One other suggestion, go over the rules with your child. No substances, observe curfew, the rules, academic honesty, avoid drama. Especially later in the year, students WILL be sent home for major rule violations. Especially if they are receiving financial aid, there are few alternatives available if they are dismissed. Warn them that behavior acceptable at local school may not be acceptable at all at boarding school.