a "friend" connundrum

trigungirl4561
Fri, 02 Oct 2009 09:12:30 +0000

Alright well I have been friends with a couple of girls that I now and in the same grad program with and my friendship with them seems very temperamental as of late. I say this because it always seems like I am dropping whatever I have to do stuff for them but that i am forgetable and a afterthought. They like my bf and will do stuff for his b-day and crap but I feel like the invisible girl that I felt like in hs. Also I have had one person who has become a friend tell me that they act very highschoolish. Which I can see to a degree, I just don’t know if I can stay friends with people who don’t understand me and my current health problems. I either get criticism or one of them tries to play “doctor”. I have not gotten much sympathy or support from them as of late and considering I have compared these girls social mores to the mob or a black hole metaphorically because u get sucked in and cant get out. Please bear in mind I have know these same 2 to three girls for about 4 years so if i did cut things off it wouldn’t be easy. I just don’t what to do or how to gain reciprocity from people who only seem to care about themselves, unless their actions show otherwise.

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