Advice from those with engaged kids, please...

3bm103
Mon, 21 Dec 2015 14:47:04 +0000

I lean more along these lines than other posters so far, so I thought I’d let you know you’re not the only one with reservations.

Add me to the list. While I would never voice my disapproval or objections, I would prefer that they at least have a commitment before living together. My first son did not live with his wife before marriage. But dated for eight years. Kind of had to, they were only 16 when they met. Have not been married for 8 years with two kids. Yes. Not living together can work out just fine. I also did not live with my spouse. It’s now been 38 years.

Second son and wife did live together but only after becoming engaged. Now five years married with two kids.

Third son is the only one who lived with a girl without being married. That didn’t work out so well since after two years she said marriage or out and he chose out.

All irrelevant though because it’s THEIR decision to make. I would, if anything, speak to my son about whether she is aware of everything but under no circumstances should you grill her. And smile, nod and pretend this is the most wonderful thing ever.