Advice from those with engaged kids, please...

Marian
Mon, 21 Dec 2015 12:12:30 +0000

It’s relevant to the OP, because those are her feelings. She just needs to keep them to herself.

She’s not keeping them to herself. She’s discussing them with us, which is a much better idea.

I agree that a statement that a couple plans to get married eventually is not the same thing as an engagement. It’s interesting that the OP’s son and his girlfriend have been talking about marriage because it means that they’re thinking in terms of a possible future together. But it’s not the same thing as buying a ring and choosing a wedding venue.