Advice from those with engaged kids, please...

brantly
Mon, 21 Dec 2015 05:05:35 +0000

Whether you are a fan of living together or not is irrelevant. They are adults. You don’t get to decide. And it is not your place to make sure that the GF “knows what she’s in for.” You cannot protect him. Even if they are not 100% certain, so what? You still don’t get to insert yourself. He may get his heart broken, or it may all work out great. Either way, you cannot prevent or facilitate an outcome.

There is only one situation that I would recommend a parent insert him or herself into, and that is if there is abuse involved. Even then, a parent may not influence the outcome and usually doesn’t.