Advice from those with engaged kids, please...

ignatius
Mon, 21 Dec 2015 03:30:01 +0000

greenbutton:

I confess I am bothered by cohabitating, not on morality but if you love someone enough to want to live with them, but not permanently promise to, is that a red flag? I feel…wary.

I lean more along these lines than other posters so far, so I thought I’d let you know you’re not the only one with reservations. My oldest daughter and (now) husband didn’t live together before marrying. I have no idea if it came up or not.

My youngest daughter is somewhat wary of cohabiting because a friend who lives with her boyfriend has wanted to marry for a while. The couple has lived together 5+ years. He keeps delaying. We all think they will marry. Still it’s hard to watch one so ready for a permanent commitment and the other not.