Advice from those with engaged kids, please...

Marian
Mon, 21 Dec 2015 03:51:35 +0000

If you love someone enough to want to live with them, but not permanently promise to, is that a red flag?

I don’t think it’s a red flag. Not in this generation. It’s more of an expected step in the evolution of a relationship.

I would be uncomfortable if either of my kids married someone they hadn’t lived with. You learn a lot about people by sharing a bathroom and kitchen with them.

[Full disclosure: One of mine (mid-20s) is living with a partner, and that’s fine with me.]