Advice from those with engaged kids, please...

rosered55
Mon, 21 Dec 2015 02:40:20 +0000

My then-boyfriend, more than 30 years ago, suggested that we live together because it would be “easier.” I was reluctant, not having even had a boyfriend before, much less lived with a man. But I agreed, thinking, perhaps correctly, that this was my one chance at a relationship and eventual marriage. He never told his parents we were living together, because he was (and is) afraid of his father. Things have not worked out well. I would have liked it if someone had said, “You know, you don’t have to get married just because you’ve lived together.”