Advice on talking about Out-Of-State options

web2094
Tue, 21 Jul 2009 16:24:01 +0000

My son is going through the same thing as you. He does not want to go to school in state and his reasoning is that he does not want to be with kids like the ones in his high school. He wants to get away in a different part of the country in a big city with lots of diversity. The problem with this from our perspective is that tuition is 3 times more out of state - approaching the cost of a private university. Even if the money were there, is it really worth it to spend that much more for the same quality? In our case, we cannot afford to send him out of state, so we have told him he can go where ever he wants if he makes up the cost difference - either though scholarships or student loans. I understand his view of wanting to go elsewhere - I wish we could do it. But it does not make sense especially considering that our state, North Carolina, has the one of the better state universities in the country. Also, students should remember that many parents have other kids to send through college and also have to worry about their retirement funds - scary thought.