African American parents....

NewHavenCTmom
Tue, 13 Nov 2012 05:45:08 +0000

I forgot to subscribe to this thread and didn’t realize the responses that were here! I don’t want to offend anyone, but I feel that we can be very candid here on CC/hold no punches… … tell it like it T.I.S. (lol that was one of my nana’s favorite sayings). These are MY opinions and thoughts. And I am sure that some of you may be bothered by what I say, but this is MY daughter and I have to ensure that she gets what she needs and WHERE she gets it… I will have to deal with the aftermath if the right college decisions are not made… so here goes… :)

As far as HBCU’s, what is the quality of education? Outside of Spelman, Mhouse, Howard and possibly Hampton? I know many people that have graduated from HBCU’s and they have told me that HBCU’s are always more than wiling to take on students who have struggled in high school so that these students can have a better life once they are college educated. I don’t want her in watered down classes because her classmates didn’t have rigor in their highschools and need to catch up, at her expense! More power to them for going beyond their circumstances to do better in life, but she has worked too damn hard to have the rug pulled out from under her academically because Tina/Johnny either didnt take high school seriously OR didn’t have a good high school experience. i just want her to get the best education possible.

I also don’t want her to struggle to pay for it once she is in… once they decide that the money is no longer available(which we have all heard horror stories from friends/family members who had to pack up/head home d/t a flimsy FA office at the HBCU’s). I am in no position to help pay for college and it would kill me if she went to a school that welcomed her with open arms financially in freshman year and then turned their backs on her after…

Another issue for me is that she is in a predominantly black school, we live in the inner city, I would like for her to go to a school where there are differing cultures. That is part of the learning experience in and of itself. I have a family friend who just graduated from Spelman and a cousin who also graduated from North Carolina A & T this past May. They both had many difficulties with the females that they were in school with. I am sure I don’t need to go into details… but I don’t want dd to have to deal with that kind of nonsense in college. That is not what college is all about. Its about growth, learning, and acquiring skills to be a productive, successful human being.

So we are even looking at Spelman with a hairy eyeball at this point but she will apply b/c its a “what the hell” kind of thing. Will she matriculate there? Probably not.

@ sbjdorlo, her freshman year she took honors latin I and honors spanish I.
soph year she took honors latin II(with a horrible teacher) and jumped ahead and took honors spanish III/medical spanish(which was a juniors level class for those intending on majoring in the health professions in college)

She is currently in honors Spanish 4 and will take AP Spanish next year. So she will have her 4 years of spanish which is great!
She soured to latin and didn’t take latin III. Its sad to say but she probably wasn’t preparted by the latin II teacher to take latin III,

As far as QB goes, she will apply when the time comes. It is too soon.