and yet another wedding question

MommaJ
Thu, 25 Jul 2013 12:27:02 +0000

I think the etiquette has to evolve with the times. When I got married no one would have dreamed of dragging a child to a wedding reception, so it was completely unnecessary to specify adults only on an invitation. But today’s parents are a different breed and need to be told explicitly what’s expected. I wouldn’t hesitate to put the message on the invitation, or, even better, as a separate enclosure sent only to those with kids–something along the lines of “We love kids–especially yours!–but the reception will be limited to those listed on the invitation envelope. If you are staying overnight, ______ hotel can supply a list of local babysitters.” (Actually it isn’t just parents–there are many stories about people bringing uninvited guest with them. I think it’s just the stunning level of egotism that is rampant in our society.)