and yet another wedding question

Emaheevul07
Mon, 08 Jul 2013 07:49:46 +0000

I have a relative who I know without doubt WILL bring her 5 children no matter what, and then let them run wild and unsupervised all night while they wreak havoc. Her kids are so badly behaved that half the family has stopped getting together for Christmas because no one has the heart not to invite her and her kids always ruin it. I’ve decided just not to invite her at all.

If I end up caving by the time the invitations go out, which is a possibility as excluding her is really a radical thing to do, I will be calling her personally in advance, and probably more than once.

We have friends with kids who I am less worried about. We will address their invitations properly, perhaps with a cleverly worded RSVP card-- I’ve seen some with the 2 already written in. I trust that they’ll get the point, and if one or two people don’t I won’t lose my cool. In chatting about the wedding with those friends we may casually mention how tiny our venue is and how we really had to cinch that guest list, or maybe make up a funny story about my crazy relative whose fault it is we can’t invite kids.

I think most people do get the point. I think many who dont are choosing not to, and there’s only so much you can do about the willfully rude.