Anxiety and lying.

esobay
Tue, 30 Sep 2008 10:52:15 +0000

EK
Very evocative thread, thanks.

I also have a liar mom. Sometimes siblings and I can’t see why she’d lie about some things, but now I agree it is a control issue. Usually it is about not paying bills and she doesn’t want to admit failure. Pendulum swung the other way with me. I so hate lyers… then get a DS that I love; who lies…

Then, anxiety… yes. DS lied about turning in homework OR he thought he had. We can’t predict what will make him anxious nor can he. And we are not beating him for missing homework, we were just trying to help… but we didn’t manage to help him, just increased anxiety. If you ever figure out a good way to reduce that anxiety, then post it! As in your own case, I think you just have to grow up.

And … I will try to say this gently … please take it gently meant!!
If you haven’t walked in “anxiety produced lies” shoes, it is very hard to comprehend the possible causes, effects and cures. I truly believe we tried nearly everything to help DS. I certainly was clear all his life about lying being a negative life style

… however, I remain open to positive suggestions. I won’t reply saying yes we tried that and it didn’t work over and over .