Anyone else have a child who is having a hard time making the transition?

njfootballmom
Tue, 18 Oct 2011 11:31:39 +0000

Emmy, I think a large part of her problem may be being so far away, and having people go home on weekends just reminds her that she can’t. We’re in NJ (south Jersey) and I can tell you, the north jersey people and NY people are different, which could be a factor. Maybe she will get used to it, but if her inability to get home is a problem she may not.

I think part of my son’s dislike for the college is fed by other students who don’t like it. There are others as he has told me and as I have seen on Facebook. I also just met a local girl who knows 2 people who transferred out of his school. The one boy from his HS also doesn’t like it.

Someone (you?) said to look at the upside of staying, but this school doesn’t really offer that much more academically. It is smaller so he might get more attention and build relationships, but the State U nearby has so many more course offerings. If he does stick out the spring I will have him hold off on a language course. He hates it and this school requires it, but his transfer option doesn’t. He can always take it later if he has too.

Whether he chooses to continue football may be an issue as to where he continues, no guarantee the nearby school still wants him. I’m not sure how important that is at this point.

Did I mention that his ear hematoma is back? He had bad pain for several days from the procedure and 2 days after the stitches came out it was back. Trying to decide what to do. These are the times when being closer helps. I can’t help but wonder if I’d have asked a question or noticed something. If he’d been nearby I would have been able to facilitate things and probably gotten it taken care of sooner. Now we have to decide if he will redo the procedure and who should do it. It will be a long day, but I may have to pick him up at school and take him to a Philly doctor. Probably should have in the first place.

Tough times being a mommy. He did write a nice essay about me for English though!