Anyone else slightly worried about this?

agreenbee
Tue, 08 May 2007 07:26:51 +0000

I just wanted to say that your concerns are really valid–I think most people come to college with a little bit of worry that they won’t “fit in” because of some preference, belief or lifestyle of theirs.

But the good news is, you’re going to Oberlin. One of the very best things about Oberlin is its diversity in terms of ways that people express themselves, make friends and have fun. For example, Oberlin isn’t a place where the social life is shaped by fraternities/sororities. Everyone has really varied social experiences. Some people have a tight-knit group of friends, others “float” between different friends, others have a lot of friends and acquaintances, and others have a few close friends. I really don’t think there are any true-blue loners.

Even though right now it may seem that the dominant freshman culture is based on partying and sex, you will absolutely find your niche with people who share your tastes. You just have to be open-minded and friendly. Plus, who says you only have to be friends with freshmen?! We chilled-out 2nd-years, 3rd-years, 4th-years and 5th-years would love to hang out with you too.

And remember–we’re all here to focus on our education. We all got admitted to Oberlin because we’re intellectuals and we pursue that. Don’t worry and good luck!