Are you ready for some.....retirement?

abasket
Wed, 14 Dec 2016 14:56:05 +0000

@ChoatieMom , no vacation in 17 years! No wonder you are stressed! Change that around right now! A week away does a world of good.

I very much can relate to @ChoatieMom and the whole idea of entering that 3rd phase of life not really feeling desirable - feeling sort of like it’s an “end” - not in a good way! I still equate working with being more with it, viable…YOUNG.

I think it depends on the people around you. And how they treat retirement. My H retired two weeks ago. I don’t know how many people have told me “let him do nothing!” - “the great thing about retirement is sitting in a chair and watching the world go by” - UGH. That is all describing exactly the picture of retirement that turns me off!

Also the whole idea of retiring together - a negative for me! I love my H but for us - not for others, I know - the idea of being both home, both not working sounds like a recipe for disaster - right now. I like to be very active - H does not. I think I would go batty knowing how much he is NOT doing. Retirement also brings up a difficult scenario for us - he is sort of content to be that “older, retired person”. I am not. We are only 2 weeks into it and only time will tell how this works out in our relationship. We will work it out, but right now, I think it is a good thing I am still working and still have a few years of work ahead of me. There is a tinge of jealousy for his free time - mostly because I see him “wasting” free time that I would love to have a pinch of.