BAD Visit, Need to Vent

blossom
Thu, 07 Apr 2011 11:17:39 +0000

I don’t think anyone is blaming the OP. But I (and other posters) have tried to point out that college is not going to be summer camp with a high level of supervision and direction. One should not pick a college where a visit has been disastrous (and I think everyone has supported the OP in deciding this school is not for them) but now might be a good time to get a reality check on how much adult intervention one can expect for a Freshman.

I’ve had kids in lots of different college/universities environments; I’ve seen the struggles that kids on the spectrum have had in dealing with independence, need to be assertive and autonomous in strange situations; I’ve seen how tough college adjustments can be for even neuro-typical kids who aren’t used to advocating for themselves with authority figures.

How that’s blaming the OP escapes me. But it happens to be the truth.

I am not a know it all and I defer to my CC colleagues on subjects such as Musical Theater, UC admissions, the vagaries of the common app, how to handle a non-custodial parent with high income who refuses to pay, and all those other CC perennials.