Been at college for 2 months and I hate it

Shelby_Balik
Thu, 06 Nov 2025 18:42:59 +0000

First of all – you are not alone, and it will get better. Two months is too soon for most people to have a solid, steady friend group. It often takes a semester or more. You’re not settled yet in your friendships, your clubs, and even your classes (freshmen are most likely to have classes they’re not yet passionate about, because they have lowest-priority enrollment and haven’t gotten far in their majors yet). You’re doing the right thing by sticking it out instead of going home every weekend, but you still deserve more support.

1. Therapy. Stat. This will make a world of difference. If you have diagnosed mental illness (and it appears you do), a therapist can help you get a housing accommodation, which (regardless of how bad your roommate is) sounds like it could be really important for you. A housing accommodation could mean a single or just a different roommate – but you can’t underestimate how it could affect your quality of life. Aside from the housing situation, therapy is a good opportunity for a regular mental-health check-in and can be a lifeline during stressful or lonely times. And it’s possible that you’re a candidate for meds that can make a lot of things much easier.

2. Try to develop a routine that will make you comfortable. Having a routine, so that you know there will be blocks of time for studying, sleeping, socializing, clubs, etc. can help you feel less anxious about any of the above getting done when you know you’ll have time for it later.

3. Try to find a study space on (or even off) campus that makes you feel at peace. Not only will this give you incentive to study, but you’ll have a comfortable and restful place to spend hours away from your room or anyplace else that makes you anxious.

4. Keep your HS friends (virtually) close. Even if you can’t be together, try to schedule a group call every week or two - enough to make upon feel supported and heard, but not so often that it keeps you from exploring new social possibilities on your campus.

Give it a semester or two. It really can take that long. Try to remember why you chose this specific school and lean into that.