Been at college for 2 months and I hate it

compmom
Thu, 06 Nov 2025 02:49:23 +0000

Some of this is “normal” and to be expected: the homesickness, trying to find your people. It tends to take until spring to feel at home, in the experience of my 3 kids and their friends.

Go easy on yourself about going home if that is helpful. I would continue living at the college and trying to spend some weekends there, but again, don’t make things difficult for yourself by trying to avoid the comfort of home either. You could always go home one night, not the whole weekend.

If you have social anxiety, and OCD, by all means seek help. Many students seek help at first for loneliness too. It would be good to have a therapist on campus or near campus to vent to while you settle in. This is very common: 50% of Harvard students seek counseling at some point, I read, for example.

The roommate issue is something you can address. If the girlfriend is there a lot, that is not fair to you. You can talk to an RA. See if you can switch roommates of get a single.

Things tend to get a lot better as time goes on. It has only been 2 months. I know it can feel like forever. I am sorry you are miserable. I hope you can get a counselor to help you through. It can really help!