Bronx Science Teacher Faces Pornography Charges

LucieTheLakie
Sun, 08 Mar 2015 14:49:49 +0000

Wouldn’t this type of guy be exactly who you’d expect to do this?

Yes, and that’s what’s so chilling about it–the kind of person you think is the ideal role model/mentor for your child is a monster in disguise. Better to have your child distrust everyone or only seek out help from the misanthropes on staff?

I have two sons–one who as a younger child was extremely skeptical of anyone who was too friendly or too interested in him. We never had to teach him about “stranger danger” because his innate makeup was to be suspicious of everyone. He’s much more accepting now and less judgmental, but in some ways, I’m thankful he was the way he was as a little boy because, while he was never the most popular kid or the darling of the most popular teachers, he likely was never the target of a pedophile either (or at least I like to tell myself this).

My other boy was diagnosed with an attachment disorder after we adopted him. There is nothing more terrifying than having a young child who trusts pretty much anybody and seeks affirmation from adults (including complete strangers) wherever and whenever he can find it. Having to explain to your neighbors that while, yes, it’s nice that we have such a friendly outgoing child, we don’t want him spending an inordinate amount of time chatting them up.

And when you try to explain what an attachment disorder is to them, they of course think there’s something off about you. Really? He seems like such a nice boy! Well he is a nice boy, but he’s got a lot of damage underneath the surface and he needs to maintain healthy and appropriate boundaries. I can’t tell you how many of them, including teachers and other well-educated professionals, ignored our pleas to keep a healthy distance from our son.

I’ll never forget the difference in Halloween trick-or-treating outcomes of our two boys. The one would get the usual haul and the other would have received twice the amount as his brother, along with several “custom” goody bags that were made just for him. I’m sure most of these adults meant well, but it was so bizarre to my husband and me. They actually directly defied our requests to treat our son like they would any other little boy and not give him special attention.