Brother ran away! Help.

Lafalum84
Sat, 03 May 2008 23:27:20 +0000

“I have classes with my brother and I know that I may taunt him or curse at him when I see him.”

I understand that you are extremely upset, and you have a right to be. But if this is the way you deal with conflict (ie taunting or cursing) in your family, I can see where the trouble started. Taunting and cursing will do nothing but drive your brother further away. It will be very hard but you need to bite your tongue and treat your brother as normally as you can when you see him at school.

It sounds like there is a serious lack of communication all around. Apparently your brother felt he was not going to be listened to, so he left.

I agree with other posters that the best course of action, difficult though it may be, is to give things a few days so everyone can calm down. Your brother is in no immediate physical danger - he has a place to stay (presumably safe), food, etc, so there is no need to panic.

Why did your parents feel so strongly that your brother should chose Clemson over Miami of Ohio? Why does your brother feel so strongly the other way? The gf sounds like a possibility on his end, but is there something your parents object to about M.of O.?

After things calm down, it sounds like some FAMILY counseling is in order for all of you. Perhaps then everyone can see why the other party felt as strongly as they did, and some communication and compromise can be reached.