Brother ran away! Help.

Silverweed
Sun, 04 May 2008 08:19:39 +0000

Lots of good advice here so far. People in love don’t always make the best long-term decisions with respect to choosing colleges, but it’s not the end of the world if he goes elsewhere. If your brother does well the first year of college and the relationship fizzles, he’ll always have the opportunity to transfer to another college later.

I agree with others who have suggested backing off and giving your brother some space. I don’t think Mormonism is the issue here. While not a Mormon myself, I know a number of Mormon families, and one common trait among them is supporting family ties and responsibilities. I can’t imagine them condoning such behavior as your brother exhibited. Chances are, his gf’s family only knows what your brother has told them, so who knows what assumptions are driving their behavior?

All things pass. Since confrontation clearly isn’t working, I would recommend letting him go his way, and work towards reconciliation further down the road. Good luck to you and your family.