Brother ran away! Help.

O2B_C
Sun, 04 May 2008 09:58:57 +0000

OP, when you said that your brother stole thousands of dollars from your dad/family, was this money in a joint bank account (college fund) with your brother & parents, and the money be legally his in any case?

I realize that your Mom is very upset, but dismanteling your brother’s bed sends the message: ‘he is dead to me’. It’s a bit over the top and very dramatic. What’s next, disinheriting him in their will? I’m a bit concerned that your parents maybe so rigid that even though he may eventually return, that they may never really forgive him. Try to help them keep an open heart.

It sounds like everyone needs to take a deep breath and let some time pass. The lead up to the graduation ceremony may soften some hearts and feelings on both side of this family drama and there may be some reconciliation. Do what you can to bring both sides together.

Good Luck, and try to be there for your brother. If this is a true story, something isn’t working in your family structure; give your brother some emotional support. No matter where this ends up, he will need you.