Brother ran away! Help.

ucsd_ucla_dad
Sat, 03 May 2008 19:46:51 +0000

But, the problem is if your child was in this position and you asked to speak with him and he said no, what would you do.

I’d let him calm down a little bit to let the emotions settle. I’d then try to approach him from as calm a perspective as possible in order to get him to the point where he’s willing to talk. Yelling, dictating, threatening will just make him turn around and head the other way.

If the above doesn’t work, I’d try to get an intermediary to try to bridge the gap, maybe another family member who’ll try to understand both sides.

If that doesn’t work I’d probably appeal to the enablers, the other parents helping the son, to help them understand the real issues (as opposed to just the son’s side), to let them know that the parents are trying to bring the family back together, and if they’re not cooperative with that, try to at least understand why these other parents are enabling this.

The bit about the friend’s parents being willing to cosign a loan knowing the issues the son is having with the parents is really strange.