Brother ran away! Help.

kelsmom
Sat, 03 May 2008 19:25:00 +0000

I am so sorry that your family is going through this. I imagine it is especially hard for you as a triplet … I have twin brothers, and it would have been devastating to one if the other broke off their relationship. You have my sympathies.

That said, I would like to focus a bit on your brother. Something is very wrong in your brother’s relationship with your parents. I won’t even pretend to guess what it might be, because I do not know anything about your family. However, there are two families that are treating your brother like a son … helping him to do what he feels he needs to do … and his own family is not one of these two families. I can’t imagine that he actually finds it easy to be estranged from your family. Please encourage your parents to seek family counseling immediately … NOT from a clergy member, by the way. The issue with Mormonism stands out here. If he has converted or wishes to do so, that is his decision; he is an adult. It should not be relevant one way or another in his relationship with your family. If it is, I think that is all the more reason to seek a professional counselor to help your family figure out how to mend the break. Of course, you can’t make your parents do anything … but as a concerned triplet, I would hope they would pay close attention to your suggestions.