Can someone please help me?

someoutouthere
Sun, 03 Nov 2013 15:13:11 +0000

Spending years going after a “trophy” is fine for me. Not to get too personal but I don’t wish to get married, have children, etc. Some people just have that thing. If I could work at a university it would be my life. I know it’s a lifelong work, I understand that nothing ever stops. Trust me.

I’m not looking for excuses. I’m reading what most people here are telling me? I’m not sure why most people are telling me that a PhD program would be a “stretch” but then I’m being flamed for whining/wallowing in my own self pity? What am I suppose to do? Automatically be happy and respond with “well that’s ok…I guess I could just be a lab director with my BS not a problem.” And that I don’t have the motivation to get this even though I’ve tried to explain several times I haven’t been anything like this my whole life?
I appreciate the advice but I’m terribly confused at why I’m getting the “stop with the bad attitude” and then the “well a PhD program would kind of be a miracle for you.”

I really do appreciate all the responses but you all are sending mixed signals. You’re really just telling me my goals are ruined. I do have a positive attitude or at least I’m trying to but I get the feeling I’m being let down slowly and easily. Well try to focus your goals elsewhere just in case this doesn’t work out. Which is fine, that’s honesty. But it’s still depressing.