Child getting cold feet

historymom
Mon, 02 Nov 2009 12:41:01 +0000

in about January of last year D had a total cry fest. Wanted to be 15 again and said among a litany of other things:

It was the best year and I didn’t realize it was at the time and I wasted it
I don’t want to go to college
I don’t want to stay home
I don’t want to take a gap year what would I do where would I go?
College will be just like high school but without the security of family and friends
What if I choose wrong?

She is now very happily away at a school which was her first choice all along and has found it to be not really at all like high school.

It took time… like until freshman orientation… before she was sold but she really hasn’t looked back. it is very common for kids to feel this way. You are fortunate that your S shared his fears.

Just assure him that it is normal and do by all means give him an out. let him know that if when move-in day rolls around next he doesn’t want to go he doesn’t have to. Oftentimes allowing kids to know that a decision this huge can be changed will comfort and reassure them.

Bobby CT: It isn’t too late to add a school close to home and I think it is advisable.