Chores and Returning College Students During Summer - Any Problems?

Lindagaf
Mon, 10 Jul 2017 15:11:21 +0000

You have a lot to deal with. I am sorry to hear of your problems. Hat’s off to you for doing as well as you have done.

I can see this becoming more problematic as time goes by, though my kids are not at the stage yours are. I think I agree with others who say that you literally should do nothing for them, in terms of buying their food or anything else. But first, sit down and talk with them and say what you have said here. Be frank and just tell them, that’s it, you are done. When my eldest gets lippy, I tell her that until she pays rent and her share of food and utility bills, it’s my house and my rules. As far as asking them to do stuff, yes, I just keep telling them to do stuff. They rarely do anything if I don’t ask, sorry to say. But as soon as I ask, they do it.

This is a tough time for you, but teens and young adults are so self-absorbed, and most don’t think of anyone but themselves. Maybe if they were more aware of how much you are struggling, they would step up a bit more. I see nothing wrong with dishing out guilt trips. Best of luck to you.