Chores and Returning College Students During Summer - Any Problems?

anon94785555
Sat, 08 Jul 2017 23:38:41 +0000

Not going to improve. Too late by now. No way I could get son to do things. The thing for you to do is to do nothing for them. Pretend they are not there- lead your life as you do when they are gone. No food, laundry, car, cleaning, cooking, use of equipment (cell phones), visitors… Be blunt about food in the house that you paid for and went to the trouble of getting. Perhaps calling a family meeting and telling them the new reality would be nice. We did best when son was only home for a week or two then away at an 8 week REU.

So many good thoughts expressed. I presume you do no laundry for them, do not buy special treats, clean a bathroom…

You have a choice. Get mad, lose your temper and make yourself miserable. Or ignore them and the above neglect. Could be you have been an enabler in the past and the last summer of college break is too late to revamp habits. Start the talk about self sufficiency after graduation. No coming home to freeload. If no paying job whoever ends up at home is required to do work for you at home. Prepare them for a new reality, there is time for that now.

Halfway point has been reached in this summer. No wonder you are stressed. Let them know. It probably has never occurred to them to act like adults at home.