Classof 2015: Waitlisted!

EmmyBet
Mon, 18 Apr 2011 09:00:04 +0000

Thanks, AvonDad! Welcome to the thread. Has your S committed to any waitlists?

I’m trying not to sweat the stats or even to think much about the what ifs. D has her paperwork in, and she will see what happens.

What I’m realizing is that she and I need to have a talk about what to tell people. When she’s asked where she’s planning to go to school, right now she says, “I’m going out east to study theatre,” which covers her current choice A and the WL school B. But in a week or so the deposit will be in at A and for all intents and purposes that IS the answer. I think she doesn’t want to have to switch gears and re-tell people if things change, and I understand that. So maybe we’ll agree that for the month of May the above is her answer, but plan a time when things will shift to something more specific.

In her mind, she is choosing between A and B (which conveniently ARE their initials). So she is being honest when she tells family and close friends that is what she is doing, even though B isn’t an actual option. She has to continue to research and think about it, because we are concerned she will have only a small time to decide on a WL offer. So it is an active choice, very real in her mind. I don’t see it as her carrying some kind of pipe dream, because I know she is not.

School A has mandatory orientation in early July, so I’m going to be firm that by mid-June when we’re buying plane tickets and all that she’ll have to go completely public with that choice. I’m guessing she’ll be tired of having no exact answer to questions by then.

I do find myself wishing we weren’t “WL people,” but I remind myself it’s just a few more weeks, and it’s nothing like the previous wait we endured - she has a wonderful choice in hand, and if I want to feel like we’re “done” I can do all of the imagining of her being there that I want.