college admissions envelope

prefect
Wed, 20 Feb 2008 14:24:32 +0000

I would open them in case there is something that needs immediate attention.
We came to an agreement with my S about college mail. Anything that was obviously junk mail such as Congrats on your PSAT/ACT/SAT score, apply to our school! parents could open. Anything that was probably something like “your second teacher rec” is missing, parents could open. As it got closer to acceptances coming, we agreed that anything that was possibly an acceptance we would not open. It would be his moment to open first. We didn’t talk about a situation like yours, because we didn’t anticipate he would be unavailable for any significant period of time. Your situation is a gray area. However, if you can’t get in touch with your D, I wouldn’t want to risk the possibility that there could be something important in the letters. Take home message to parents: come to some type of agreement with your kids about what is OK/not OK for you to open when it comes to college mail, especially if they might be temporarily unavailable