College Loneliness/Confidence Problems

seahawkgirl
Sat, 08 Sep 2012 21:33:59 +0000

I grew up in an amazing city with a decent sized high school and a great group of friends that I have known for a very long time. I recently started college in Boston, MA and I feel more lonely than I have ever been in my life. I was never a partying person and I don’t drink very often and I fear that this will greatly hinder my efforts to make friends. I have already befriended a nice group of people, but I can’t help but feel left out because they have a HUGE common interest that I would love to understand more about, but sometimes it’s all they ever talk about. I don’t really know anybody in my classes and I dread it when classes end because then I will be alone. I have started attending a church group which other colleges all over Boston go to and I signed up for a few clubs that interest me but none of them have started up quite yet. I’ve never had the highest self esteem and barely dated in high school and this enormous city and large campus I find myself in now is terrifying. I haven’t been eating, I’ve barely been sleeping and I miss my home like crazy.

I want to be able to strengthen my relationships with my new friends without being seen as the odd one out. I also want to meet people in my classes and clubs that I can hang out with after class, go to lunch with and feel secure with. My major is relatively small, do people in the same major form bonds and become a kind of community over time? Will it be hard for me to make those kind of friends because I’m really scared about this.

I would also like to find a significant other. I have always had plenty of guy friends and I like watching sports and stuff with them (trained by my dad), but like I said, my self esteem is not very high. I’m very friendly and easy to get along with but I never find the right chances and opportunities. I miss my home and my old life so much.

I’ve been a cluster**** of emotions lately and I may sound crazy but I’ve been so worried lately and any assistance would be greatly appreciated. No haters, please, my self-esteem is low enough at the moment. Thanks!

(Hometown: Seattle, College: Northeastern University, Major: Psychology)