College Loneliness/Confidence Problems

TylerL
Sun, 16 Sep 2012 01:52:48 +0000

The main cause of those feelings is that for the first time ever (for most of us) we are removed from our comfort zone for a longer period of time. I left home later then most do and these past few weeks, i’ve had moments of loneliness, feeling like I should have went to FSU at home, or to UNF in jacksonville. But things are getting better and better each week. I’ve connected well with one of my instructors. Absolutely love 2 of my classes. It takes a few weeks sometimes for people as a whole to adjust to their new surroundings and be open to connecting with others.
If you want to get the ball rolling… Try reaching out yourself… Yes it will take some guts, but the payoff is often worth it. (The famous quote from Three Kings "You get the courage AFTER you do something, not before, it may not sound the most disney’ish way, but that is how it works)
For me: This one girl who lives in my build. I’ve seen and nodded hi a few times. I saw her more then once eating by herself in the dining hall. One time, waiting for a moment she was up about about, I approached, said the “hey, you live in the same build” some light banter, her return was positve, so I boldly (i was a tad nervous) said “Your welcomed to come join me over there.” and that was it. I did that intentionally so she could decide if she really wants to, and she did! and we’re getting to know one another better now… Point is… If I hadn’t done that, I would not have made a new friend. Same can apply to anyone.