College senior feeling very alone

erosenthall
Tue, 07 Aug 2018 00:52:58 +0000

My freshman year got off to a rough start. I had a really hard time making friends and was very lonely and homesick until I met a friend a few months into my second semester. That friend introduced me to other people who I eventually became very close with. Everything got better so quick. When I was at my lowest wanting to transfer or even drop out I finally met these people who I became so close with.

That was 2 and a half years ago and I’m starting to feel the same way I did back then. The friends I was so close to have started drifting away or becoming closer with other people, which is fine, but it leaves me feeling very alone. I have one friend who still actively tries to spend time with me, but she works a nine-to-five, so we don’t really get to spend that much time together. I have a roommate, but we just recently met before we moved in together and she’s really not home all that frequently.

So, as a result, I’m home alone. A lot. And it’s nice at first, the quiet and the freedom to be as loud as you want or whatever, but when it’s every day of my life, it starts to tear away at me. I have a job, and that’s nice, but I’m still coming home to an empty apartment most days without plans for the rest of the day.

I guess I just don’t really know what to do. All the posts I see on here about people being lonely are all by freshmen, and I don’t know how I got here. I feel like I should be above this by now, that I should have more than three friends, but I don’t, and I still just want to go home to my family all the time.

How do you know when you get to the point where you need to talk to someone? How can I encourage myself to put myself out there and meet new people?