College Sophomore wants to marry

nurseratchet
Wed, 18 Feb 2009 19:12:30 +0000

The parents went to counseling on monday and felt pretty good about it and continuing. The counselor’s advice to them was to make it clear to the daughter that she will be on her own financially if she makes this decision. This was the deal long before college about not getting married while in college. She focused on the parents enabling etc. I have been in contact with the DD through email about her budget, financing etc. She was enthusiastic at first but now that the reality has set in my guess is I’ll hear less from her and she’ll be listening to more from her married friends"who all have money left over at the end of the month!!" I have flip flopped reading these posts. At first my thoughts were don’t continue to pay for school if she knew the deal going in. Then after the posts I agreed it was really important for her to finish her degree in case she gets divorced. Now, I just don’t know. The kid is insistant it’s her parents fault that she doesn’t understand all this stuff and wants to struggle. So I say let her struggle. It will be a good lesson in life. Instead of figuring out what she’ll need to pay for and how she’s calling to ask the parents if they’ll buy the bridesmaid’s dresses for the wedding they can’t attend. Very immature thinking. The school is reasonable compared to a lot of schools so we are not talking about a lot of debt here. I think if it were me I would have her now take out student loans and then I’d have the option if I wanted to pay them back for her later. If she gets divorced in a year, sure I’d pay them off. If he flunks out of school, is running up credit cards etc on foolish things I wouldn’t be so eager to do it 2 years from now.