College Visit-Uncomfortable w/ Activities

Jolynne_Smyth
Tue, 20 Nov 2007 08:26:05 +0000

I guess I’d separate the (mainly) harmless, fun-but-pushing-the-social-envelope stuff mentioned here (clothing optional movies, etc.) from the more hard-core stuff I’ve been hearing about elsewhere.

E.g., on another thread, a parent described her son’s experience of living on an ‘athletic floor’ of a small LAC – athletes were drunk a lot of the time, trashing dorm, RAs did nothing. My friend’s daughter is at U of Delaware – she’s going to leave her current living arrangement because friends (they moved in together by choice) are doing tons of coke (& they enjoy going to strip clubs for fun [yes, they are girls]).

Just kind of saddening.

When I talk to other parents about this stuff (e.g. “I’m worried about the alcohol culture at college; hope there aren’t a lot of drugs…etc.”) – I invariably get the response: “It’s everywhere. Get used to it. You have to trust your child w/the values with which he was raised.” Etc.

I’m just believing that (somehow) this passive acceptance of whatever is currently prevalent need NOT be the only response.