College Visit-Uncomfortable w/ Activities

Jolynne_Smyth
Tue, 20 Nov 2007 07:59:26 +0000

Interesting (& scary) reading all about the current culture at colleges. I’m probably the minority, here…

Somehow, I just have this feeling that I don’t HAVE to give in to the prevailing culture & have my son (&, 10 years later, my daughter) go & live in an environment that has a huge percentage of peers drinking, drugging, being promiscuous, etc.

I’d like my son exposed to a wider, more adult culture than the one in which he’s grown up (although we live in a wonderfully diverse area, in terms of ethnicity & religion). I imagine it would be good for him (although he’ll decide) not to necessarily only live w/conservative Christians (although he is Christian). But, I would really, really hope the other option is not an incredibly, wild, party atmosphere.

I totally agree w/having to trust your child’s morals, internal compass, etc. But, then again, why would I want to throw a young, 18-yo into the fire of multiple temptations?

I would hope that the choices aren’t: 1) limiting, conservative conformity that leads directly into lock-step career path (as barrons mentioned earlier) or 2) swimming in a sea of decadence hoping not to go under.

This issue has been troubling me during the college evaluation process more than almost any other one.