Collge rejection and parents

blueiguana
Sat, 02 Apr 2011 22:12:58 +0000

I’m so sorry your father is being unsupportive. Virginia tech didn’t touch their wait-list last year. I am assuming your are a Virginia resident. Admissions in state are very regional. Students from high achieving high schools need higher stats than elsewhere in the state. There’s no getting around it. JMU is a great school, and actually preferred to VT by many area students. VT is a great school, but it is NOT the only place to get a good education in Va. Not by a long shot!

Certainly contact VT with updated interest, third quarter grades to show continued success, and let them know about any new achievements and awards. From there I would focus on JMU. Asking your father to visit with you, understanding that only HE can change his attitude. It may help for him to see what a great experience you will have and how happy you are about it.

What he’s doing is not fair, but you can’t change him. What you CAN control is your own attitude and how you feel about your future. I would not discuss transferring at a later date with your father. It may calm him initially, however it may only serve to delay another episode of the same behavior if you A) choose to stay at your chosen university (very, very common! People fall in love with their schools!), or B) if you don’t get accepted as a transfer student next year. I honestly feel it’s better if he makes peace with your decision. If you choose to apply for transfer next year you may want to keep it to yourself until you know the outcome. Should you have to do it this way? No, but you have to take care of yourself and approach this in a way that will bring YOU the most peace.

My most sincere congratulations on your acceptance to JMU!!