Condescending people...

HisGraceFillsMe
Fri, 03 Jun 2011 16:44:14 +0000

This is why I always try to assume positive intent. It’s very difficult to say “Yes, I got into Harvard” without seeming condescending. They are probably very self-conscious about it. If they really are being condescending, it could be for a few reasons:


They’re just that kind of person.
They’re scared/insecure…they could know that they’re going somewhere where they won’t be the big fish anymore.
This is more on a subconscious level. If these are good friends especially, they know that they won’t see people anymore, and they try to create some distance so that they don’t miss you quite as much once they leave. This happens A LOT, especially over the summer of senior year, both with friends and family.


I just wouldn’t worry about it. Granted, where I’m from, it’s common to go to State schools so I didn’t encounter a lot of this. But you just have to remember that you’re doing what makes YOU happy, and that’s all that matters.

If you really don’t want to talk about it, you don’t have to. You can always tell people “Yes, I got into a great school and I’m very happy with my decision.”

And if all else fails, turn the conversation back on them. “Where are YOU going?” People love talking about themselves.