Confused by boy's behavior

i_see_the_moon
Sun, 23 May 2010 21:54:52 +0000

I’ve known this dude since we were in high school (we’re in college, he is a year older than me.) We’re both competitive, and for a good while he didn’t really like me because I kind of showed him his place. That changed my junior/his senior year. We were starting to get along, we found out we weren’t that different from each other, liked some of the same stuff, been to the same city over the summer, etc…….then he found out I liked one of his friends. He became friends with one of my friends and she told me everything he said about the other guy (none of it was good, all of it was true.) Then he told me he was “fine” and that he “didn’t really care.” I was a little confused about why he would care in the first place, but was too angry at myself for having liked what turned out to be a loser and let it go.
A few months later, I update my Facebook page with a book I had read and found out he has done the same a month later. I write this off as coincidence, until he watches us play districts and someone mentions the book and he looks my way. He also looks my way and follows me around for a good twenty minutes when he realizes that I have cool sunglasses.
When I came to college and he saw me at practice the first day, I looked terrible----and he still greeted me happily. Every time something was mentioned that we had in common he looked my way. And smiled. A lot.
He is part of a comedy club here (the club’s performances are good, and I’ve been to plenty of the shows.) Every time I go to one of those performances and he realizes I’m there, he looks my way for longer than normal—not in a disgusting way, though he’s sneaked a cheeky glance at my lady lumps once. At a fundraiser the club had for the American Cancer Society, I thought I could stop the awkwardness by just going up to talk to him for a few minutes. He was so nervous when he was talking to me, even if it was only for five minutes—but happy I called his name, took a picture, etc. (Keep in mind he’s perfectly responsive online when I talk to him, very nice even, though sometimes he doesn’t really know or care what I’m talking about.) But when I go back to my friends across the room for the remaining two hours, he stares at me…for the remaining two hours. A month later, the club has its regular performance; the last of the semester. I go, and this time he tries to be a little more discreet, but I can still catch him since he’s not performing…
Is there any explanation for this? I’m confused.