Coping with depression caused by the college selection process...

anewkid
Sun, 29 Apr 2007 16:37:55 +0000

Clearly you have gotten a lot of mostly good sound advice here, hey a lot of people care about what you are going through! The one thing I will say and I truly believe this is the cliche that there is a silver lining in every cloud, no matter how dark. In this case, you are devastated and understandably, my best friend who is now a senior had the same thing happen to her and is settling for Binghamton when she really thought she was going to go to Colgate or Brown. She was beyond devastated and literally walked around for weeks like a depressed zombie, broke up with her boyfriend, stopped talking to everyone,etc…her Mom took her up to Binghamton for a second look and on that visit she met a girl she knew from last year who incidentally was #1 in her class, p.s. they hit it off and she felt better knowing she was in such great company. Although it still eats away at her she is now putting her energy into being more optimistic about her future, is planning on working very hard her first year and considering to transfer at one of the schools she had her heart set on. There really really is a reason things happen, not to diminish what you are going through because so many do and its a deep heartfelt pain, when someone referred to years of working so darn hard and then seeing it all go into dust in literally two seconds after reading a decision sums it up. I personally always try to think how much worse it could be, maybe you wouldn’t have gotten in anywhere, there are many for whom Wisconsin is a dream school, something horrible (God forbid) could have happened and maybe you can’t go to college, period,etc…you get the picture. my aunt follows very closely Deepak Chopra and she has greatly influenced my life with the simple powers of positive thinking. I wish you luck and assure you in a few short months, you will be adapting to your new college, and very likely not only having a great time but not even thinking for a second about where else you could be.