Creeper working at the dining hall, school won't do anything?

3togo
Tue, 17 Feb 2009 14:40:05 +0000

Please ignore those telling you that this is somehow your fault or not an issue. The legal standard for harrassment revolves around the “reasonable person” test … you get to define what makes you uncomfortable (as long as a reasonable person might also find it uncomfortable). Staring, unwanted comments, and waiting for you certainly sound like actions that should be stopped if you want them to. The best case is if you tell him his actions are making you uncomfortable and ask him to stop … but even that is not required … if you go to authorities on campus they should help you. You should not have to go to a different dining hall to avoid him, you should not have to change timing of trips to the dining hall, or change how long you stay, or any other action because of him. He needs to stop or he needs to moved to a new location. The one who is misbehaving must change … not the victim.

PS - to those telling the OP to just deal with it I hope as a brother (to a sister), son (to your mother), friend (to a female friend), or significant other (to a girlfriend/wife) your view of someone harassing the important women in your life would be much more supportive. Women should not have to live with creepy behavior directed at them.