Dating black guy: parents in shock

07DAD
Sat, 07 Mar 2009 11:47:03 +0000

Good luck. Changing engrained ways of thinking in adults is a daunting task to say the least.

What you do might turn on whether you are thinking about marrying the man. If that isn’t part of the plan, you might just try to ignore the issue.

If you have marriage/life commitment thoughts you might want to check a few more things out before you act. Does your guy know of your parents’ feelings? Do you know what his parents think about him dating you? Do you know if your guy’s parents know of the negative feelings by your parents?

At some point you are going to have to assess what this relationship is going to “cost” the two of you regarding your families. I’ve had friends who walked away from the relationship for family peace and I’ve had others who walked away from the family by keeping the relationship over parental disapproval.

Welcome to the adult world of hard decisions.