Dating black guy: parents in shock

lorelei2702
Sat, 07 Mar 2009 10:43:56 +0000

They want the best for you, and they can only vouch for and trust things and people they know. My parents’ and in-laws’ generation did not have social experiences or comfort with people of other races, nor with gay people. My MIL is the only one left, and even though she used to make comments which were offensive, she has embraced each of our friends whole heartedly once she has met them and spoken with them…all of that attitude is just gone. Give them time and introduce them to your friends. If you accuse them of something negative, i.e. “racist views” and “colonial mentality”, they will respond defensively, so make your way positively, sharing the good experiences you are having.