Dating: Entertainment or Distraction?

taurustorus
Sun, 28 Aug 2005 21:03:22 +0000

um, of course you can balance awesome grades and having a boyfriend (which is more involved/time-consuming than casual dating… b/c the whole thing can lead to periods of depression and ****edoffness when you two are having issues, and this becomes a time for total non-productiveness sometimes). it’s all about prioritizing. in my experience, if you date/have a boyfriend who’s as academically motivated as you are, then it all should work out fine 'coz each knows the importance of making the grades and being involved in the campus community, etc (i’m not in college yet–only two more weeks, but i went to a pretty pressure-cooker type HS, dated, and did just fine).

casual dating should hurt your grades even less (if it were to) b/c it’s just the same as hanging out w/ friends. you go out to the movies or have dinner or attend a college-sponsored event together and if the chemistry’s not there, you say bye bye.

i think that if you like someone and you have the opportunity to date him, you should go ahead and give it a go b/c in my experience obsessing over that person in silence takes waayy more time than actually being w/ the person. with that in mind, you should also initiate some of the moves (i.e. flirt, etc) if you’re into a guy, so you can get the hell on with life (with or w/o a bf) the sooner you find out if he likes you back or not.

besides, i think the whole dating thing is a good ppl-skill-building experience. you learn to let others know how you feel w/o freaking them out, and you handle real-life situations like finding out annoying quirks of another person and trying to deal with them; letting go of a relationship (not necessarily romantic) in a civil manner, etc etc. no book-reading can really teach you all that.