Daughter has been lying to me!

123mom
Mon, 09 Aug 2010 10:34:24 +0000

Thank you everyone for the advice.

The past 2 weeks have actually been wonderful even though I had that slight meltdown last week. I have been doing a lot of thinking and I have done all I can as a parent to keep her safe and now its her turn. We have talked about drinking and sex and drugs, about consequences, about our family history. I have set a good example with my own behavior.

Although I hate the drinking and I would rather she not drink, I can’t make her do what I want, she is an adult now and has to make her own choices. I did find out that at the last party mostly the boys drank a little too much, and as they became more drunk she grew increasingly uncomfortable, so much so that she did not enjoy the party as much as she wanted to. I am thinking this is a good sign.

We only have five more days until she heads off to college, and I plan to make the best of it. Saturday we enjoyed the day and had a picnic by a lakeside at a beautiful state park with all of her friends, the day was perfect. These are the memories I want to keep of her, and what I want her to remember of our last days before she goes to college. We will catch a movie, something we enjoy doing together, and take a stroll at an arboretum close by.

She will come back, she is not leaving forever, but things will be different.

I hope all parents put things in perspective and learn not to over react, its not helpful and it only damages the relationship with your child. But it can be repaired, and we can move on…

oh and musicamusica: your post made me laugh!