Daughter has been lying to me!

Keilexandra
Wed, 04 Aug 2010 23:35:18 +0000

I agree with the previous sentiments, and will also advise this: make a distinction between not telling you things and lying to you about them. If your D’s personality is “very reserved,” it’s perfectly normal for her to keep her life private even from you (I say this from experience). You should be sure that your D knows lying is unacceptable–but also understand that she WILL tell some white lies, and keep them in perspective. Perhaps if you tell your D that it’s OK for her not to tell you what she’s doing, as long as she doesn’t lie, then she will lie less. E.g. Had you ever directly asked your D whether she had a boyfriend? If not, then there’s nothing wrong with her “lie of omission.” You may want a closer relationship, but your D wants to stretch her wings and gain some independence.