daughter is blaming us

madbean
Fri, 25 Apr 2008 15:57:02 +0000

I would add that this prolonged anger (however painful to you, the thoughtful parent) is part of the separation process for D. Unconsciously, she needs to find fault with you in order to face moving away. Fun, huh?

If she is the homebody type, you may not have had much of the hanging on-pushing away mood swings that some teens experience. But it is good to remember that you have acted in the best interests of your talented D and your advice in this instance is sound. I agree that you can continue to reassure her that she may transfer to another school with your support and help for soph year, but her next year will be wonderful at college A. (And won’t the boyfriend still back home next year?) Best of luck.