daughter is blaming us

A.S.A.P
Sun, 27 Apr 2008 15:50:12 +0000

I think there’s a difference between high school and college. At 14, mom probably does know best. At 18, not so much.

Anger can come from separation anxiety, but it can also come from not feeling listened to or from not having her concerns and “needs” taken seriously. At 18, it’s time to make some of these decisions and deal with the consequences, providing her decision is a positive one.
It sounds like she has good reasons for wanting to stay close by. I don’t dismiss the boyfriend angle as much as many parents, seeing as I married my high school crush (best decision ever) and changed colleges to be with him. My college soph son also is still with the lovely gal he dated in high school. It may not last, but I’m in no position to dismiss their feelings just because they are young.