Daughter wants to give up?

ACCecil
Wed, 23 Jun 2010 16:07:23 +0000

xcmom2012: First, I am sorry to hear of your D’s challenges. I’ve found it hard to help plan my oldest S’s life so I basically just wanted to say to you to hang in there.

A few probably meaningless thoughts: Habits are hard to break. If she constantly compares herself to others she may not be able to stop easily. Worrying about money is almost unavoidable for regular folks in this dog eat dog world. I have no clue how some folks manage to avoid not doing that.

If she is shy/awkward around people that is a huge challenge as well. I’ve found that self-esteem issues, not saying she has that, but I am saying self-esteem issues are the root of many individual problems in this world.

From what I can tell, there is no perfect career. All jobs, as I tell my sons, have problems. That is why they call it “work” and not fun. I make a living teaching at a CommCollege, which is great job, no research requirements, no need to publish or perish, just teach, but my oldest son says he doesn’t want to do that. Then he tells me he doesn’t want to work any 9-5 job! Actually, its more like 8-6 but you get my point.

Well, son, you’re screwed then!

Since that isn’t very helpful advice I am clueless as to what to say to him.

I’m tempted to say “figure it out for yourself,” but that is even worse than interfering so I will continue to meddle.

If she majors in creative writing, unless she ends up teaching, yeah, she probably will be poor. That is why most people avoid that major and oh by the way if she does teach writing or composition she’ll spend the rest of her life grading lousy papers so you loss either way.

She could major in marketing or advertising or HR management. Not bad degrees or careers. I hope she finds her way. God bless either way.