Daughter wants to give up?

momofsongbird
Thu, 24 Jun 2010 01:36:46 +0000

momofsongbird: I’m worried that she won’t be happy with just finishing. She’s too focused on everything being “perfect”

I do understand that way of thinking, really I do (as something of a perfectionist myself). The problem is that it can become paralyzing. There is always a reason why something isn’t perfect, ergo a reason not to do it at all. I struggled with this way of thinking in my younger days, and I really encourage you to gently help your daughter ease out of that mentality.

A thing done, 80% well, is so, so far better than not done with insistence on perfection. I truly speak from experience (and the heart) when I tell you that this is possibly the most important lesson your daughter needs to learn in these last college years.