Daughter with cold feet. Please help

rainmama
Mon, 15 Oct 2007 13:37:51 +0000

As atamom said, the issue could be uncertainty about going to college, rather than simply not wanting to leave home. If it’s uncertainty about college, I would encourage the student to think of the application process as a way to hold open options. A large number of last year’s graduating seniors at my kids’ school applied to college but decided to take a gap year before enrolling. The counselors encourage all the kids to apply now, while the whole process is easy and they have access to counselors, recommendations, etc. Then they can request a deferral for a year or a semester if they want. This works at many LACs, but obviously not at big state schools. It might reassure your daughter to know that the application process doesn’t mean she has to go right away, but will have some time to get used to the idea.