Daughter with cold feet. Please help

chocoholic
Sun, 14 Oct 2007 23:27:01 +0000

A lot of kids start out in 9th grade bragging about how far away from home they intend going, but as reality, and 12th grade happens, they often change their minds.

In the end it doesn’t matter. A kid does not have to be 1000 miles from home to soar, and grow and become independent. Even 50 miles is far enough. It’s up to the student usually, how often they actually meet family. They tend to get so involved with school, studies, roomies, activities, that there is not much time to visit home.

Now, does your daughter actually talk about living at home and being a commuter student? Many who make that choice find it hard to fit in with the student body that lives on campus.

The only thing I can say is apply to one school really close by, just so she feels like there’s a net for her, and then apply everywhere else.

I agree with midmo about the overnight dorm stay. My D was actually put off by her overnight visit, by all the frat parties, alcohol etc. That’s because she saw a sliver of life that night. She now loves the same school, cannot imagine herself anywhere else, and has yet to have a drink, even as a 3rd year.