DD victim of date rape

poetgrl
Thu, 16 Jun 2011 21:02:00 +0000

First of all, your daughter may have had too much to drink to fight off an attacker, but that hardly makes her responsible for her own rape.

I never say “date” rape. It is acquaintance rape, and most rapes are by people known to the victim. Just because they were once intimate does not give him a “right” to her body. Sick thought, frankly.

But, you don’t want to force a victim to press charges. They absolutely need to have control of their lives back. It is not a liberating experience to bring rape charges, no matter what the DA might try to say. It is the single worst victim situation in a court of law, and the lack of a record of physical evidence will put her on trial as well as him.

Now, having the letter might make it worth while. Or, perhaps, having the letter, she might consider a civil suit for damages. Just a thought.

Be gentle with yourself. You didn’t cause this and you couldn’t have prevented it, either. Don’t do those lists. And, your daughter didn’t make this happen either. Remember that.