Deferred to Regular Decision... now what?

paying3tuitions
Wed, 10 Feb 2010 12:50:20 +0000

Our son’s deferral turned to rejection in Spring, but he also had 4 acceptances and chose thoughtfully from among those. I’ve mentioned this before, but since you’re a new member, I’ll quote from S-1’s email home in October of freshman year: “If I had known how happy I’d be at my ‘second choice’ it would have been my #1 all along.” Each year on CC, we see many other posts along the same lines.

I’m sure your son is sad, but your parental attitude of knowing it will all work out has a certain contagious quality. Sounds like you’re not wringing your hands, berating the deferral or weeping at night. Perhaps he’ll take his cue from your calm reactions here.

Your OP also asked how not to be ‘annoying’: General CC wisdom from Parents is: if he achieves something unusual between Fall and now; an award, a new Letter Of Recommendation with a different perspective, a position in a situation that indicates he’s either flying in a strength area or mending a weak area…these are things to send in. More-of-the-same as was in his original app is not likely to change their minds. From the Early App, they already know they’re his first choice, so no need to write love letters to them.