Definition of cheating in a BF/GF relationship

Weskid
Wed, 06 Aug 2008 04:48:39 +0000

I’d consider it cheating if my BF fell in love with another person (woman or man) and hid it from me. Now, if he told me as soon as he realized it was happening, I’d probably break up with him, but I wouldn’t consider it cheating; in the same way that breaking up with someone because you want to have sex with other people is not cheating if you have not actually done it yet.

But if he was in love with anther girl and she with him, and they said “I love you” and all that, and he hid it for a long time while still being with me, I’d consider that cheating. Indeed, I’d venture to say that it would hurt me more than a one time drunk fling with some random girl.

That said, I have no problems with my BF having close relationships with other girls, because I have absolute trust that they are just platonic, in the same way my close relationships with other guys are. But, basically, if one day I were to find out that those walks he takes with X were actually filled with professions of love instead of chat about the club they are in together, I’d definitely consider that cheating.